If this is in the wrong spot, Christy, please move it!

Do people think you're a super mom, you know, have it all together, get it all done but feel like you don't?

I had a cousin say to me this week, "well, if I'm half the mom and wife that you are, I will have no problems!" Made me think, a lot. There are days, okay, weeks, that I feel like I've failed around here. Don't get me wrong, my kids are fed & wearing clean clothes, but I think, whoa, there's so much more I should have gotten done, then I feel guilty. Guilty I didn't do more and guilty people have that SuperMom perception of me.

Ever feel like that?

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Interesting topic Bonna!

I never feel like supermom......I always feel like I'm just short of a passing grade: that there is so much more I could be / should be doing with them. I'm wanting my partner back so we can do this together.

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Being as I only have one child, nobody ever thinks I'm a supermom. I suppose that's a good thing.

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"Use what talents you possess; the woods would be very silent if no birds sang there except those that sang the best." ~Henry Van Dyke

DH is here, there are just days I feel like I am falling short of the bar. I need to snap out of this stupid funk and get back at it.

Like tonight. I have to get DD and 4 other girls and bring them home from choir. Meet the boys as they get off the bus and get to the next town over, grab them something to eat, get DS #1 to gymnastics and then DD, DS #2 and DS #3 to church choir all by 6:30. I feel like feeding them McD is wrong and I'm not sure what to change to fix it. If I don't get to the next town over before 4:30 Chicago traffic is in full force.... I really don't want to feed them at 7 either b/c the little guys go to bed at 8. Ahhhh

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I think as mothers we are always trying harder to be SuperMom.

Even when I first started the cafe and had dd at home, I was always trying to juggle everything. No matter how hard I try, I always felt like I was comming up short.

Now 30 something years later, dd is always telling me "I don't see how in the world you did all you did and still had plenty of time for me and my activities"

And all the time she was growing up I thought I was failing in that department.

I have never felt like a SuperMom. I make sure first and foremost that they know how much I love them and how I always will. The clean clothes, keeping them fed, etc. all just kind of fall into place. There is more that I could do for them I'm sure, but they are content, know they are loved more than anything, and they seem to be two very happy kids!

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It's nice to be important, but it's more important to be nice.....

I am always trying to "live up to" some SuperMom thinking and I'm not sure why. I ALWAYS have to do it all on my own, do not delegate or ask anyone for help. And I always have friends say "when I have kids, I hope I can be SuperMom just like you". I'm not sure why they say that. I have in no way given that impression.

I don't think anyone thinks of me as being Supermom! No one's ever mentioned it before. (that I can remember)

Of course I'm always trying to BE Supermom! I want everyone to think that, but I am SO far from it that it's not even funny! I'm actually pretty lazy by nature. My house is rarely clean. BUT, we're all healthy and happy - so life is good!

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I'm more Slacker mom than Super mom.

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I always think I should be doing more for my family. I come down hard on myself because I think I compare myself to my upbringing not to other parents we interact with.

My DH compliments me all the time on how I organize and get things done with the kids, but I feel like the house suffers as a result. Something always has to give and as long as I'm okay with that then life is good! The most important thing is that my kids feel like they are #1 and they are happy and healthy - everything else will fall into place.

When DS #1 was in kindergarten there was a SAHD who would compare himself to me all the time. Both of us are competitive in nature, but he would always comment on everything I would do and then make it a big deal in front of other parents. It got to the point where I rarely talk to him anymore - it put too much pressure on me to be the Supermom he thought I was.

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