First off I do not go to church and do not believe in God(I don't want to start anything it's just how I am) anyhow, Dh used to go to church and doesn't anymore, too busy working, But the thing is DD(almost 5) went to church with her Grandparents on Sunday, I have no complaints about this I want my kids to experience church and make a decision of their own I don't try to influence then in anyway, Well now that she went to church she keep asking me all these things about God and telling me what God made and what He did. What am I sopposed to do when this happens? I have no knowledge of the bible anymore and can hardly remember about Adam and Eve. What am I sopposed to tell her when she asks those questions without pushing my believes on her? Any advice would be helpful. Dh doesn't really know what to say either, he hasn't read the bible in a long time. TIA

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Perhaps you could refer her to her Grandparents. Or you could tell her you honestly don't know but will find out for her and ask someone. There are some very knowledgable ladies on this board that I am sure would help answer questions. HTH

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honsetly i would go get her a childrens bible and read it to her... you unfortunatly are going to get the question, the one asking you why you don't go to church, and this is going to be a tough decesion for you, you could tell her the truth, or you could suger coat it...

i am new to church, i didn't grow up in a church home by any means, and so I never wanted to know about it, then i met Dh and he grew up in a church, and IMO I would never want my kids to think for a second that there is NO GOD... I could not imagine what would go through there little heads wanting to know what happens when you die.. I could so see Logan being so fearful of death if i told him nothing happened, you die and they bury your body... i now that would scare the stink outta him... now Im not by any means trying to push you into religion. but I think for her sake for being so small i would get her the bible and read it to her...

i mean it can't hurt...

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I am in a similar situation. I don't go to church because I don't believe in organized religion. I don't know if there is a god, but I live the best I can & I figure that if there is or not that is all I can do. I kind of think about god the same way I think about aliens...if they exist that would be really cool, but I have a hard time believing in something that I can't see & have never felt the presence of. Anyway when my kids ask me I am honest. I tell them that I don't know, but then I tell them some people think...& some people think... As for specific questions about the bible; there are tons of web sites to look to for answers.

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First of all, I like the way Jaime's handling it. Be honest. Tell your DD that you don't have the answers, but that the both of you can find them out. Have her use her grandparents as a reference. See if they can make an appointment with the pastor of their church. Informally, even. I don't know of many ministers who wouldn't take a few minutes to talk to a child. See if your public library has any kids' level books on religion, or if the local bookseller has some.

The object is not to "push your beliefs on her," but to help her develop the skills she needs to form her own. That means teaching her how to find the answers to her questions, which is often more helpful than trying to answer them yourself.

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If you go to ask.com, and type in the question, you may get an answer back. You can say, "Some people believe this..." or, "the Bible says"...I google a lot of questions and get up interesting info.

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Hi C & P. I'm also an athiest - not a mom - but I can appreciate your question. I would go with the "some people" approach. When she starts telling you what she "knows" about god - god made this or that - you can ask her where she learned it. She'll probably say Grandma or church. You can tell her that SOME people believe that, but SOME people believe other things. Keep it at a very simplistic level. Tell her there are lots of different churches, and they all don't believe the same thing. Tell her some people, like Mommy, don't go to church at all. You don't have to tell her you don't believe if you think that is pushing her to your mind set, but you can tell her you're not sure. Like someone posted above - it would be nice, but you don't know if it's true or not. This can be an excellent discussion, but you don't mention her age, so you need to keep it age-appropriate. As she gets older, she'll find her own way. I would not rush out & get her a children's bible, as that, to me, seems to endorse one line of faith over any other and, if your intention is to not push her into any one direction, that would seemingly go against that.

You might want to look at some Universalist-Unitarian websites to see if they offer any other suggestions. You need not believe in a god to be a UU.

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Thanks this really helps. And I will try and come back here to ask y'all if I need to.

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