Is there something that has happenned in your life that you can never get over? Is there something in your life that you can not forgive yourself for?

If you have forgiven yourself, how did it happen? What was the process you went through to have peace of mind?

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There is nothing I can't forgive myself for as of this time in my life.

Forgiving yourself sounds like a hard process, and sometimes it's complicated by thinking that if you don't make it hard on yourself whatever you did wasn't that bad, but forgiving yourself is simple once you realize that in holding back you are just punishing yourself longer. I was alone and thinking about what happened. And then I asked myself how long I was going to beat myself up over it. I didn't have an answer. So then why wasn't that day the day to make it stop? No answer for that either. So I asked myself what I learned from what happened, would I let myself make the same mistake again, what steps could I take to prevent getting into a situation like that again - and after gaining closure to the issue (which was enormous) I told myself I was done feeling bad about it, that I had forgiven myself for it.

After that you have to train yourself not to think the self-defeating thoughts that you've always thought. So it's not like it magically ends everything, but it immediately makes you feel lighter and free. There is still work to do, but that process of letting it go is a promise to yourself you have to keep. Everyday is easier when you do.

I havent' always made the best choices and I always replay them in my mind, it's just my nature. I feel guilty daily about a million little unimportant things, I try hard to block them out. But I think you're talking about bigger things.

I have had some pretty major talks with God and asked him if he could forgive me. What more can anyone do than that. If he can, who are we to beat our selves up. I just try to do better, that's the best I can do.

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No, nothing I can't forgive myself for. My theory is that all the decisions you made in the past lead you to where you are in life. I would not like to change the present. Does that make sense???? Ugh!!! I think I am getting too deep for this time at night!

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Yes, I did something at the age of 19, after my first year of college that I still struggle with forgiving myself for. I'm not sure if I ever will. What I did completely changed the course of my life.

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Crystal
Mom to Paige & Faith

I have one and I dont think I can get past it, I know all the reasons I should but I cant so I guess its a daily battle to let go of it.

Being an Catholic and an Irish one to boot I carry the gult of a failed marriage with me. I know it takes two to make a marriage work, but I often wonder if I was more mature, more patient could I have handled things differently? Would we still be a family?

Im in two places on this my head sees the logic of what happened and that I cant fix everything myself but my heart is in a different place on this.

going to my my lifes job to get head and heart in the same place

Anne

Christy, are you talking in a Christian sense? Some on here know, some don't...I got pregnant my senior year of high school. Of course, the guy took off...and I was the one who had to make the decisions to have the baby, keep the baby, etc. Thank God I have wonderful parents who supported me 100%, once they got past the hurt of me doing this. Well, even though I know I am a good mom...and everything happens for a reason, etc, I still struggled with this. I met dh and had another child before I finally went to my pastor. We talked long over it, and he pointed out so many other people in the Bible who had "failed"...but you know that verse in Romans (3:23)"for all have sinned and come short of the glory of God...". Well, that one sort of closed it for me. Then, we had a women's conference with some awesome Christian speakers...and one of the things they had us do that weekend was pray for forgiveness and closure on something we had been holding on to...and we wrote it down on a piece of paper..and one by one we took turns going up and throwing it into a fire...and when the paper went in...it was DONE. Over. I had turned it over to God. I could cry even now...because it was just such an emotional and spiritual relief. I think that is when I knew with all my heart that God was my Father...and my life was His.

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