I am really struggling with the discipline issue for my son. He has been disgnosed with some ADHD symptoms, impusivity, and lately has been responding with more aggressiveness.

I am really stuggling on how and when to discipline him. I know he needs discipline, especially for those actions that don't have a neorlogical background. But when he does somthing that I know is stemming from a neurological malfunction, what is the best way to handle it?

I hope this makes sense.

amy

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We'd like to help, if we can. Could you give us some examples? It's something we all struggle with, but I'm sure we've all dealt with them in some way, also.

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He has recently started scratching at your face or pulling hair when he gets mad. This is usually when he does not get his way (either in what he is expecting to happen or what he wants). I really struggle with whether this is a typical 3/4yr old behavior or if this has something to do with the neurological issues.

It seems like anything I try discipline wise is not working. He seems to listen to anyone else better than me. I just get so frustrated. But I guess I would rather him listen and obey when he is with other people than for it to be the other way around.

I'm open to any ideas or suggestions.

amy

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My dd has downs and she will do this too. I tell her know in a stern voice and will sign this too. With her it has been much repeating and going over it by stopping and telling, but she now understands. You have to fallow threw and be firm about it he needs to know you will not give in or give up. With my other two I just gave them a time out. It takes time put soon they know you mean business. Dd has very short att. span and sometimes I just try to divert her to something different to focus on. I'm sorry if this is no help. But please keep looking for information.

I am by no means an expert and have all kinds of issues with our SN child but I do follow the ABA approach to behavior. Negative behavior gets no reaction from me at all. I just walk away. Good behavior gets positive rewards. Wow, super job! Way to do it! I keep up all the time on the rewards for the good. I get tired but he knows good from bad.

All the best, April

He doesn't listen to you because you are the "safe" person. You are taken for granted, but that is actually how it should be. Please read my post to Missy in the FASD thread under the Special Needs area for tactics I used with my son. My little one year old is starting to pull hair, bite and pinch, and I have to start all over again. I take her little hands in mine, look her right in the eye and tell her, "No biting." or whatever it is. They are smart, but we have to be consistent. Beware of spanking, though, as a child with Sensory Disorders, if there are any, crave the deeper touches, even when they hurt, so it's ineffective, and even damaging. They have a hard time understanding why this person who says they love them would hurt them (but don't relate it to the fact that they love us and hurt us).

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WHat is FASD?

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Good question. It's Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (disorder?). The posting is labeled: "Help!! 1 with FASD and maybe one more", here under Special Needs. If you are not able to find it, let me know, and I will copy and paste it to you. Have a good evening!

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