a question about my baby

momofezl · **a question about my baby**

Hi all,
I just got back from my baby's 6 month appt. well, he has not met any of the 6 month milestones, and she said I need to work with him to want to take a spoon, stand, and sit. Also he does not babble. He is the best baby, he just smiles and is always happy just to be. He hardly ever cries and is pretty much silent. My dr said we are going to watch him and see more at 9 months.

Does this sound familiar to any of you? She asked if mental retardation or autism ran in our family.

My middle son (3) was in early intervention because of a speech delay which he has overcome.

I just don't know what to think and if there is anything I should be doing with him. Thanks for listening!!!!
FYI-he was born at 36 weeks, I was on bedrest most of the pregnancy due to preeclampsia, but he was 8 1/2 pounds and did not have to be in the NICU.

Jodie · 06-05-2008, 06:02 PM

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Originally Posted by momofezl

She asked if mental retardation or autism ran in our family.

WHAT?????? Why the heck would she even ask that? I personally would have been offended by that question only because HE'S SIX MONTHS OLD FOR CRYING OUT LOUD!!

Every baby progresses at different ages. Like the six month old i am watching right now.....crawls, pulls himself up on things and even walked a push toy across the floor. I have never seen an infant that age do that. I was in shock

MOST six month olds that i have met don't stand up.......some don't even sit up by themselves yet. My son wouldn't take a spoon because he hated food....and i think he had just stared solid food around then.

Please don't worry. I'm sure your baby is just fine. If the doctor keeps this up i think i would find another asap.

melsb · 06-05-2008, 06:17 PM

I'm looking at the 6th Month Chapter from What to Expect The First Year book. And this is what this is saying,

By the End of this month, your baby should be able to - keep head level with body when pulled to sitting (6 1/3 months) and say ah-goo or similar vowel-consonant combinations.

By the End of this month, your baby probably will be able to - bear some weight on legs when held upright. and sit without support (6 1/2 months)

By the End of this month your baby may possibly be able to - stand holding on to something. Feed self a cracker. Object if you try to take a toy away.

I'm not a doctor but it seems that she is going a little too quickly myself. Not to mention everything says that all babies develope differently. Have you had this doctor long? I'd would say at 9 months maybe watching your doctor a bit closer. What a horrible bedside manner she has.

Kimberly75 · 06-05-2008, 08:55 PM

My ds is 22 months old and he has been a late bloomer right from the start! He has reached all his milestones about 3 or 4 months later then most babies his age. He is a perfectly healthy little boy both physically and mentally. I'm not a doctor, so I can't tell you whether or not you should be worried about it, but all babies are different and some progress much faster than others.

christy'smom · 06-05-2008, 10:28 PM

My DD is a late bloomer too - she rolled over when she was 5.5 months and only yesterday took 3 steps - she is 14.5 months old. Please do not worry and enjoy every moment.

One of my friend's kid is more like yours - very quiet, but nothing wrong. May be he's just quiet guy.

desertmom · 06-06-2008, 12:19 AM

Ouch! I think the first thing I'd be looking for is a new pediatrician. How insensitive! And frightening!

Most babies don't sit up until they are 5 months, and some are still trying to get it right at 6 months. Plus yours was born early, so is really 5 months anyway!! Stand? At 6 months? No. Take a spoon? Some kids just mature earlier than others. Write down what she said and re-evaluate yourself in two months.

momofezl · 06-06-2008, 08:45 AM

thanks so much girls!! I was starting to worry, and my gut feeling was that he is fine. If he is slow, that's ok. I will love him no matter what, he is so precious.

I have not had my dr long. I had a wonderful pediatrician, but she is now about 45 min. away and I wanted to find a dr closer to home. it is hard to take a sick child so far to see the dr!! i will see how things go at 9 mo. and decide what to do.

to clarify, my baby does not sit at all, and she meant bearing down weight on his legs while i hold his hands as standing at this age.

littlelizard · 06-06-2008, 04:41 PM

There is a range for these milestones, like 6-9 months, or 6-12 months, KWIM? Watch for the things that were mentioned but I think you can give it a little time. I suggest getting a book with a list of all the milestones and the ranges. So you know what to look for. Hang in there

TommysMommy · 06-06-2008, 04:41 PM

First of all, remember that your baby was born a full month early. That means he should be doing things for a 5 month old now, not a 6 month old. I don't think any of my 4 kids sat at 6 months without help.

This is WAY too young to be concering you. If he wasn't sitting at a year, I'd take notice, but this is just unrealist. She would be freaking out to hear that Tommy sat unassisted for the first time at 18 months. Yes. Eighteen months. My point is each child develops on his or her own timetable. Not by a chapter in a book.

Relax and enjoy your baby. He will meet her milestones in her own time and on his terms.

Cookie2 · 06-06-2008, 05:55 PM

Since he is a second child, he might have siblings who tend to do too much for him instead of having to do for himself. I know I have a friend who's younger child was speech delayed because everytime someone asked him a question his older sibling answered it! Just make sure you're encouraging the baby to do more. Don't let the older sibling 'help' too much and don't get into the habit of doing for the baby just because you're so busy and need to get things done quickly.

If you're giving all the regular environmental stimulation, all should be fine.