I was going to say the same thing. Our focus gets put on what we think about. So if I'm thinking about not shopping I'm really thinking about shopping. I have been thinking about this for about a month now. I've been trying to put my energy on where I want to be, not where I don't want it to be.

I agree that a hobby is in order. It took me ages to come up with an interesting hobby, but after getting a high end digital camera from my in-laws at Christmas, I've been researching, reading, and practicing everything photos. It puts the focus on something rather than away from something.

I'm also considering running. I'm in the pre planning stage for that one. I have lost 35 lbs by eating more whole grains and smaller portions but I have 15 lbs more to go for a healthy weight. So I've been looking at books on running; how to train, what to wear; how far to go at first. I figure it will give me a good focus and have the added benefit of taking off those extra lbs. I may have to buy a jogging stroller, some clothes and a new pair of proper running shoes but it's way less expensive then shopping as a hobby.

I also agree with the others that this is a great place to come to celebrate your successes and your struggles. We are here to support and encourage you during the triumphs, trials and temptations. :high five:

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When I stopped shopping for entertainment, I feared the same thing- what will I do now? Shopping was my escape.

Decluttering is my current project- I don't have to run off anywhere to get a good feeling- the satisfaction of seeing this get done is reward enough. Ironically, I am happier staying home now that my house looks and feels so much better. I also research homeschooling quite a bit- that is like having a PT job. To "get out of the house"- because some days you just have to get out- I take the kids to the Childrens Museum or the Aquarium, since we have yearly passes. If it's nice, we pick a park or another outside place to go.

But I have to say this: Stormy, you are a pretty savvy woman. In your heart you know that going out to buy things you don't need makes no sense at all when you have a sizable debt to pay down. Challenge yourself to get that thing paid off ASAP. Won't it be nice not to have it hanging over your head?

And shop for the things you need- that is guilt free shopping. Try a new supermarket or a farmer's market to shake things up. Shopping for the basics can also be entertaining. Try to get the best deals.

I am only buying what we need, and I don't feel deprived or as if I am scrimping. But I guess that's because I am really at the point where I do not want to buried in stuff again. I'm enjoying having my time back to do things other than shopping.

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