husband in the dark - Page 2

mom22girls · 08-17-2006, 10:04 PM

I don't have any advice. My dh is the same way.I handle all the bills and when money is tight I tell him to cut down on the spending. He never does and I have to find a way to work around it. I have tried to talk to him about money and bills and he doesn't even want to listen. He seems to think that he makes sooo much money and it should be available for him to use whenever and however.

sarita6727 · **Dave Ramsey will help**

We got the book Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey and the Financial Peace Software and my husband and I can now discuss the budget calmly and with a common goal. We started the plan this last March and will have all bills Car, credit card and 2nd mortgage paid off by Jan 2008. It is very worth it. But you have to talk to him. It will be hard at first but you need to do it for your own sanity. Good luck and buy the book at www.daveramsey.com it will save you $ I bought at bookstore and paid almost $10 more than the online price.

Persephone · 09-04-2006, 05:16 PM

My Dh gets $50 each pay (every 2 weeks) that he can use as he wants.

crazykelly · 09-04-2006, 07:23 PM

he probably has no idea how much he's blowing. if its on a credit card, i would pull up the statements for a few months and show him how much he has spent?

Adda15 · 09-29-2006, 08:34 AM

I would definitely talk to him right away. My DH always left the finances to me and I was happy to do them. Unfortunately our credit cards got away on us and they just kept mounting and mounting.

It finally got to the point where I felt like I was hiding the amount of debt we were in ($20,000 in CC bills) and I finally told him. The stress was too much for me to deal with on my own. I was prepared for him to loose it, but instead he was very calm and said ok, lets get them paid off.

We did get them paid faster than I thought we would and it's because we both understood what needed to be done. Because of this we are much more realistic and have also paid off my car, CC free for over 2 years, paid in cash approximately $20,000 in adoption expenses and now only have his car left.

Get it out in the open now. It has to happen sooner or later.