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Old 10-19-2007, 09:22 AM   #11
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To me regifting is one of those - " why In the world wouldn't You Do it ???" kind of thing
I don't re-gift. I will pass something along with the explanation but I don't feel right taking the 'credit' for buying the gift when I didn't buy it.

I have had things re-gifted to me and it almost inevitably has caused hurt feelings. Every time the story eventually came out .. (except for once I saw it unwrapped under the person's tree after they had opened it and the next day it was wrapped up and given to me.) Passing something on that someone has given you and telling them is generous but passing a gift on and pretending it comes from my own generosity seems cheap .

So far the things that have been re-gifted to me under the pretenses of a 'real' gift are completely unlike anything 'me'. A true gift is something someone gets for you because it reminds them of you, not something that found unused in an upstairs closet. I think I feel a little sensitive about it because one of my SILs always re-gifts the most unlikely things and then acts all pious and generous about it when I know she is only passing something along that she doesn't want in her house and this same woman has the nerve to send me a list every year of EXACTY what to buy her own children. The year I got up the nerve to send my own list it was ignored and the kids got a grown up board game (for my then 5 & 7 year old)! I wanted to wrap it back up and give it to her the following year, but my dh is a dear sweet man and a peacemaker in his family and he just gets what's on his sister's list.
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Old 10-19-2007, 09:48 AM   #12
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I re-gift, too. I've regifted duplicate items, things we didn't want or wouldn't use, etc. I am careful that the gift matches the recipient. I've also done like Oregano and given things to others. It just depends, but I see no problem either way.
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Old 10-19-2007, 10:41 AM   #13
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I too regift. I am extremely careful about regifting and I don't do it to save on money. I.e.- last year I received a Thomas Kincade tin with a candle in it- I love burning candles and I do like Thomas Kincade paintings- but not enough to have extra clutter in my home- so it would not be used. My MIL loves Thomas Kincade and actually collects his things so I am going to be giving her that in addition with another present I will give to her. Usually when I regift- it is something in addition to what they do receive as a present and if I happen to be in a declutter mood- I will give these things away instead of keeping it as a present.

Usually when I regift- these are the things that remind me of someone else that I think would enjoy it more (I am not a picky person- I am just truly satisfied with the things I have and don't feel like I need anything else- maybe a gift card to the grocery store and so on!). There is a way to regift with tact and KathrynHannah's SIL is a prime example of what not to do!
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Old 10-19-2007, 01:04 PM   #14
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No...I don't. If I get something that I don't want/can't use etc, I just offer it to a friend or family member by saying something like "...I got this as a gift and I can't use it, would you like it?"
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Old 10-19-2007, 01:48 PM   #15
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Yes I totally regift but only to people I know understand why I am regifting, my MIL honestly collects some the most random things so if I get something I KNOW she'll love i'll pass it along, she does the same for us, it's just an understanding we have that we are cheapskates and we are all completely fine w/ it
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Old 10-19-2007, 02:17 PM   #16
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I do the same thing - I give them to friends and family, but I don't give them as gifts. We live in too small of a town to be able to do it. I would though, if I could get away with it! These are last resorts, though, if I can't return the gift in the first place.
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Old 10-19-2007, 10:01 PM   #17
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yes i have when we have been down and out poor!!!! Sometimes i put gifts aside when my kids get wayy tooo much for those rainny days and there has been times well when I have to take one of those toys usually not my oldest though cuz she knows but the other two yep!
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Old 10-20-2007, 08:57 AM   #18
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I think that re-gifting is a great thing. I recently went "shopping" through my stash of stuff and I had bought a bracelet for myself earlier in the year that doesn't fit and I'm giving it to my niece for Christmas and I found a new bottle of perfume that my husband gave me for Christmas last year that I can't wear and I'm giving it to my other niece for Christmas. I'm very careful as to what I re-gift and to whom, but I think that it is a great money saver.

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Old 10-20-2007, 02:17 PM   #19
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I do. I got a cute blue and white ceramic jar a few years ago that matched my SIL's kitchen theme, so it was regifted last year to her. I know there have been a few other gfts too. It makes me happy knowing stuff I don't want/can't use will get a home.
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Yes, I do.
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