My dh has been spending a lot of money recently and killing the budget! We had several projects we needed to do for the house. Backyard landscaping, solar screens, racks to organize the garage, garage door opener, front window tint on the cars ect. We had it all planned out to do everything in stages. But before I knew it in March he started on one thing and wouldn't stop! We had the money but it was all done within 2 weeks! Our savings took a major hit!

I had a talk with him the other day and I told him we need to hold off spending money. He agreed but he already had set up a T-time to go golfing with one of our friends. So I said okay. Golfing is not cheap here in Vegas. That wasn't to bad but he keeps spending $30 here $40 or $50's there and it's all adding up! And then he asked me yesterday if he could go golfing today because work was having a sports day and if he didn't participate then he would have to work. I couldn't say no because I didn't want to be the mean wife and make him be the only one at work.

I don't know what is going on. He doesn't normally spend money like this if I don't have a paycheck coming in too. It's really starting to bother me because I have been holding off on a freezer that I NEED because of the money. I only leave the house 2 or 3 times a week to save on gas and I am waiting to buy a jogger/bike trailer because of money. I'm starting to get resentfull and catch myself wanting to go spend money too....

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Sounds like resentment is the problem. With good communication, you might have had some of your needs met as well as some of his. Even the best of guys are sometimes a little thoughtless.

I hope y'all get on the same page and you get your freezer soon.

Cathleen

Aww that's horrible!
This is definitely and issue, for its become a strain on your relationship. Have u tried talking to him about the situation? I hope that this issue will come to a happy ending for the both of you soon

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I feel for you girl!! In fact I could have written this same post just one month ago (except it was spearfishing gear, stuff for his truck and atm withdrawels!). I was ticked and letting him know it but in passive aggressive ways (like being smart and sarcastic or refusing to do his laundry he never even got that it was because of him!). Finally I went to him without being controlling, demeaning or whiney. Instead I was completely open, honest and vulnerable (that was so hard!). I explained that I was really scared and worried because the savings had dropped and he seemed to be buying a lot of stuff that could have waited. I told him I was feeling left out of the decisions and wanted to be included and finally I told him how I had been making sacrifices so that we could get ahead and I felt that he hadn't noticed or appreciated them. The fact that I started with the "I've been feeling scared" made him want to rush in and protect me and fix it. We are now communicating and are on the same team again. He has been doing so much better and I feel so relieved.

I'm so glad things are going better for you.

I talked to DH again last night and I approached him a little differently this time. (3rd times got to be a charm) I told him I had to transfer money from savings again. Then I told him what the balances are and I showed him the print outs of where all the money went. (He didn't like the balances)I then explained that I was upset and hurt because I was making sacrifices and working hard to save $ but all the $ was getting spent anyway. Dh then looked at the print outs again and saw that all of the $ I spent was for food and gas and that all of the $ he spent was for himself. So he agreed to a spending freeze. I'm still a little upset that all that $ is gone but I'm getting over it. I'm just happy that we are on the same page again

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Good that you talked to him. Hopefully things get better.

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I am glad that your hubby listened. Mine goes through that too and uses the excuse "you only live once" and continues to spend. It is hard to say anything because I don't bring any money in. I am just supposed to save it.

I totally understand where you're coming from on this issue.
I'm so glad you were able to sit down with your DH and get this resolved!

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July food budget: $500.00
Eating out spent: $85.00
Groceries spent: $248.12
Total spent: $333.12