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Old 07-02-2008, 04:20 PM   #1
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Being Poor

Being poor is knowing exactly how much everything costs.

Being poor is getting angry at your kids for asking for all the crap they see on TV.

Being poor is having to keep buying $800 cars because they're what you can afford, and then having the cars break down on you, because there's not an $800 car in America that's worth a damn.

Being poor is hoping the toothache goes away.

Being poor is knowing your kid goes to friends' houses but never has friends over to yours.

Being poor is going to the restroom before you get in the school lunch line so your friends will be ahead of you and won't hear you say "I get free lunch" when you get to the cashier.

Being poor is living next to the freeway.

Being poor is coming back to the car with your children in the back seat, clutching that box of Raisin Bran you just bought and trying to think of a way to make the kids understand that the box has to last.

Being poor is wondering if your well-off sibling is lying when he says he doesn't mind when you ask for help.

Being poor is off-brand toys.

Being poor is a heater in only one room of the house.

Being poor is knowing you can't leave $5 on the coffee table when your friends are around.

Being poor is hoping your kids don't have a growth spurt.

Being poor is stealing meat from the store, frying it up before your mom gets home and then telling her she doesn't have make dinner tonight because you're not hungry anyway.

Being poor is Goodwill underwear.

Being poor is not enough space for everyone who lives with you.

Being poor is feeling the glued soles tear off your supermarket shoes when you run around the playground.

Being poor is your kid's school being the one with the 15-year-old textbooks and no air conditioning.

Being poor is thinking $8 an hour is a really good deal.

Being poor is relying on people who don't give a damn about you.

Being poor is an overnight shift under florescent lights.

Being poor is finding the letter your mom wrote to your dad, begging him for the child support.

Being poor is a bathtub you have to empty into the toilet.

Being poor is stopping the car to take a lamp from a stranger's trash.

Being poor is making lunch for your kid when a cockroach skitters over the bread, and you looking over to see if your kid saw.

Being poor is believing a GED actually makes a goddamned difference.

Being poor is people angry at you just for walking around in the mall.

Being poor is not taking the job because you can't find someone you trust to watch your kids.

Being poor is the police busting into the apartment right next to yours.

Being poor is not talking to that girl because she'll probably just laugh at your clothes.

Being poor is hoping you'll be invited for dinner.

Being poor is a sidewalk with lots of brown glass on it.

Being poor is people thinking they know something about you by the way you talk.

Being poor is needing that 35-cent raise.

Being poor is your kid's teacher assuming you don't have any books in your home.

Being poor is six dollars short on the utility bill and no way to close the gap.

Being poor is crying when you drop the mac and cheese on the floor.

Being poor is knowing you work as hard as anyone, anywhere.

Being poor is people surprised to discover you're not actually stupid.

Being poor is people surprised to discover you're not actually lazy.

Being poor is a six-hour wait in an emergency room with a sick child asleep on your lap.

Being poor is never buying anything someone else hasn't bought first.

Being poor is picking the 10 cent ramen instead of the 12 cent ramen because that's two extra packages for every dollar.

Being poor is having to live with choices you didn't know you made when you were 14 years old.

Being poor is getting tired of people wanting you to be grateful.

Being poor is knowing you're being judged.

Being poor is a box of crayons and a $1 coloring book from a community center Santa.

Being poor is checking the coin return slot of every soda machine you go by.

Being poor is deciding that it's all right to base a relationship on shelter.

Being poor is knowing you really shouldn't spend that buck on a Lotto ticket.

Being poor is hoping the register lady will spot you the dime.

Being poor is feeling helpless when your child makes the same mistakes you did, and won't listen to you beg them against doing so.

Being poor is a cough that doesn't go away.

Being poor is making sure you don't spill on the couch, just in case you have to give it back before the lease is up.

Being poor is a $200 paycheck advance from a company that takes $250 when the paycheck comes in.

Being poor is four years of night classes for an Associates of Art degree.

Being poor is a lumpy futon bed.

Being poor is knowing where the shelter is.

Being poor is people who have never been poor wondering why you choose to be so.

Being poor is knowing how hard it is to stop being poor.

Being poor is seeing how few options you have.

Being poor is running in place.

Being poor is people wondering why you didn't leave.

Being poor is being afraid to smile because you have lost a tooth in front, or have crappy teeth, or have no teeth at all.

Being poor is having severe malnutrition when you are 13 from lack of food, and having all your teeth removed when you are 19 from years of hunger and malnurishment when you DID eat.

Being poor is having to move every three months because your mom couldn't pay the rent and all your furniture was put out into the streets and all the kids laughing at you.

Being poor is having your dad in prison while you are a kid and everyone knowing it, and your reputation of being on the welfare also preceeding you everwhere you moved.

Being poor means you are so hungry all the time you can't think about your lessons, or much of anything else, excepts the pangs of hunger.

Being poor is visiting your dad in the jail on weekends to bring him some of what little you had to eat, and so glad he is not in state prison this time.

Being poor is having one brother taken into the c.c.c., (civilian conservation corps), and your mom getting 25 dollars a month, and having one less mouth to feed, and more for the kids that are left.

Being poor means that the other brother is drafted into the army and sent abroad, and glad to get the job.

Being poor means getting pregnant while still a kid, and delighted to get married, just to have a home of your own and a husband with a job so you can eat and feed an adorable real life baby doll that is on it's way.

Being poor means that you are just continuing the cycle of poverty that has gone on generation after generation with most of the people you know within your class.

Being poor means it may take 4 generations for that cycle to be broken, and then being poor is trying to pretend that it never happened, and certainly never talking about it.
love, alma
who ain't told you nothin bout being poor. There are just no words to tell the story, and particularly to people who have no ears to hear, no eyes to see, and no heart to feel, anyway.

Being poor is what most of the world is trying to tell to a world that is not listening.


Being poor is wondering why everyone is willing to send money to feed people overseas when there are so many of us here who could use that money!

Being poor is sending an email to national companies begging for coupons for their products.

Being poor is hinting to people that you'd like something they may be getting ready to throw away or donate, a tv, a computer, a 20 year old car, or whatever you've been living without for months.

Being poor is not being able to find even a part-time job because you don't have the proper skills and can't afford to go to school to get them.

Being poor is having to see if you can get to a job by the city bus, usually the answer is no.

Being poor is not being able to put much, if anything, into the collection plate at church on Sunday!

I FOUND THIS AT Scalzi.com -- The online home of writer John Scalzi
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Old 07-02-2008, 06:50 PM   #2
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Interesting!! Guess my whole country is poor then (Canada) cuz a 6 hour emergency room wait is the norm!!! Some of them are accurate, some are one mans opinion.
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Old 07-02-2008, 11:12 PM   #3
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Wow what a list
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Old 07-03-2008, 12:38 AM   #4
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Sorry, but I just don't like this one (no offense to OP). While a few things in there are reality for someone in need, a lot of it is stuff we've all experienced at some time. Like getting angry because kids are always asking for crap from TV.

And hoping a toothache goes away, especially when you know the bill is going to be $2,000! That doesn't make us poor.

I think the biggest part of being poor is having no hope.
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Old 07-03-2008, 01:12 AM   #5
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Darn straight even in my richest of days , I Hope That my toothache goes away!
I Have no Dental insurance... and I Know How Much that toothache could Cost! Yikes , I have a friend who just had 9,000 Worth of work done.
Makes me feel bad for Complaing about my 1,000 Crown!


Anyway... I think Alot of this stuff on this list is done by people all the time. Not just the actual poor... But those who are Paying off bills or have more important expenses at the time.

And I think it is Stigmas like this that Make people avoid this stuff cause it makes em look poor.
So even Not so poor people become poor , cause they try to " Keep up with joneses" when they should in reality Be living these "poor" ways.


No offense to you OP Thanks for the list !! It is an
eyeopener.
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Old 07-03-2008, 07:44 AM   #6
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that kinda of list makes me want to cry when I imagine the words coming from a child
I know alot of those things were my childhood

being the only one on wensdays that couldn't get in the "ice cream line" cause my mom didn't have 35 cents to give me
Having to give up my room in our small apartment for a man my parents let move in for the extra $$ (his name was Spike)
Having to leave the park because when Spike and my brother went to the bathroom they saw a druggie who OD on the toilet
Being the only kid with a "brown baggie popcorn snack" that my mom made for us for lunch
Having the Nuns drop off cans of food for Christmas Dinner- Corned Beef and Hash and then asking my poor hard working mom why we had to eat "Dog Food"

The list goes on and on- I think things like this shape who we are- it is important to make sure they shape us into better people- I am a frugal careful mom who is "middle class" and can afford things for my kids because of being careful, I am convinced I can because I learned from my mom how to- she left that situation- it was hard for years she work fulltime and took college classes at lunchtime everyday- and then afterwork, not getting home until 11pm sometimes. Thank god we lived in a country neighborhood at that point.
anyway- I think the cycle can be broken before 4 generations, it takes the knowledge and determination that having to do things like live with a cooler instead of a fridge, knowing what foods can still be fresh with out refridgeration after 2 or 3 days, using a futon as a couch and a bed, having to wear your mom's sneakers cause she only has enough money for one cheap pair....

Life is good for me- and it was then too- it was hard I knew we were poor- and I know my mom made hard decisions but i think they made me who i am today
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I experienced some of this growing up. We were broke most of the time, but we were never poor. Broke is just the current state of your finances. Poor is a mentality.
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Old 07-03-2008, 09:33 AM   #8
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We have a $700.00 Honda for several years now and that car has been the best investment ever! It's not pretty but it's paid for and runs like a trooper!

And I don't consider myself poor -- though my husband is currently unemployed. Hmmm, maybe I should rethink that!
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Thank you chevy_chick95. Reading this was a reminder of all the things I do have. I feel poor compared to the families my kids go to school with but we are very fortunate.

Joyscott2 you must be proud of your mom. It sounds like she made a lot of hard sacrifices to put your family in a better place.

I just don't think some people understand how bad it can be. Especially after Hurrican Katrina when a lot of people were saying how all of those people should have evacuated. Some of those people had no means.

Thank you for the post it brought tears to my eyes and reminds me how blessed I truly am.
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Thank you chevy_chick95. Reading this was a reminder of all the things I do have. I feel poor compared to the families my kids go to school with but we are very fortunate.

Joyscott2 you must be proud of your mom. It sounds like she made a lot of hard sacrifices to put your family in a better place.

I just don't think some people understand how bad it can be. Especially after Hurrican Katrina when a lot of people were saying how all of those people should have evacuated. Some of those people had no means.

Thank you for the post it brought tears to my eyes and reminds me how blessed I truly am.
thanks kamsmommy- actually she is now a prof here at PSU worked her way thru a bachelors and then a masters....
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