When you and your children are in a social setting, does your child actively engage with the kids in the room, or does he have a slow start, or does he not leave your leg?

My boys scan the room first adn then jump right in. Today when we went to church for the first time, both of them when at Children's Church, said "hello" to the teacher and then kinda scanned around the room looking at the decor and toys. My two year old jumped right in and then waved goodbye to me, but my four year old was a little more hesitant but then within a few minutes sat with the group and participated in the bible study!

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Gavin is pretty out going. He'll observe for a little while and then jump in and play. Dylan on the other hand is pretty clingy in new situatuons. If he's with his brother he's apt to be more social, but alone he doesn't do all that well.

Kelsey has always been my social butterfly....Colin is getting there. 2 years ago he cried on the playground with my parents b/c a little girl talked to him (I'm not kidding he cried and when my Dad asked why he was crying he said "Because she talked to me"). Now HE is the one to go up to kids and ask them to play.

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My daughter who is 3.5 in any new/loud/confusing situation will not leave my side or else will find a place to hide. We went to the bowling alley for a bday party. She rolled the ball once and spent the remainder of the time watching the other kids from under the table.
At playgroup she is okay if there are 2-3 other kids, but if there are more she starts to "melt"-behavior gets clingy and quiet and eventually leads to crying hysterically. I put her in daycare 2 half days a week to help with the social aspect and she spent the entire time crying and sitting in a corner sucking her thumb. Needless to say after 6 weeks we stopped banging our head against a wall and took her out. She doesn't start preschool until the fall and I am not looking forward to it. I've chosen the school for it's quiet very orderly environment in hopes that she will be okay with it.

My son on the other hand (1.5) is the social butterfly. He is forever smiling and laughing and joining in with the other kids.

It's very interesting to see how different siblings can be.

-Christine

my oldest is VERY clingy she will be 7 this week and still!! she is getting better tho!!
there was times when she would not go anywhere unless I was there!! she would get so nervous that she actually wold break out in hives and almost get sick from crying!!
my youngest just needs to asses the situation beore she will jump in to anything!!
but is a lot easier than my oldest!!

Mine will jump right in with other kids. We toured a preschool Friday and the teacher invited dd to join circle time & she went over and sat down. Th teacher even called on her and she went up and matched the red heart and answered the teacher when she askd dd about it!!

Now, if it's a room full adults, she is behind my leg. I joke that she is trying to crawl back in the womb because that's how close she gets sometimes! She will even try to hide in the stroller or grocery cart! How funny it that? Her teachers don't beleive me when I tell them she is shy! They say, no not her!!

All 3 of mine are very secure and independent. They walk in, find someone to talk to or something to play with, and have a blast. I'm so glad, too. I was very shy and I'm glad that they aren't.

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Parker, Wyndser, and Carson....................Wyndser (in blue) with her cousin

My dd is very, very shy, but once she is comfortable in her surroundings, she is fine and more outgoing. She does pretty good when with other kids, but when adults come around, then she is so shy, she just won't talk to anyone and wants me to hold her. My ds, OTOH, has always been outgoing, does not have problems joining in a group of kids. Although, he is almost always the last one to get to participate in a game or whatever they are doing, because he won't speak up. For example, the kids were playing fooze ball after church one day, he waited until all the other kids played and then wanted to play, right when I was ready to go. they were going by ages, and he definitely isn't the youngest (maybe the smallest! HAHA)

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