OK. My son plays with the 2 neighbor kids 2 doors down from us and today something bad happened. They were playing at their house for awhile and then came back down to ours. I told my son we needed to eat but the 2 kids could wait in the great room for him and when he was done they could go back to playing until they had to go home for dinner.

I was just about to put a piece of pizza in my mouth when my son says, out of the blue, "At Jane and Bob's house we were watching Bambi and then Bob hit the remote by accident and this other movie came on where these people all took their clothes off and the man put his penis in the woman's mouth."

I was completely stunned. My husband and I just looked at each other and then I asked my son if he was making it up, knowing full well a five-year-old can't make that up. So I went into the other room and asked the neighbor kids if they've ever seen anything like that before. They said no, thank God! Then I asked them how long the movie was on. Heather said a few minutes and then their Dad came in and turned Bambi back on. He also yelled at them and told them not to touch the remote anymore.

Now, what someone does in their own home is their business. But if you can't have enough sense to keep your **** movies away from not just my child, but also your own children, aren't you a complete F*****G idiot? I am waiting for the mother to get home from work and then I'm going to have to call her and tell her about this. I am just not comfortable with my son playing in their house anymore. If those kids have such easy access to ****, what else do they have access to that I don't know about?

What would you do?

Personaly, I would allow those kids to play at your house but I would not let my kids go to theirs. Thats just careless parenting!

Oh boy, that's a shocker! I do have to say that my dd age 5 saw a dirty email on the computer once. I had NO CLUE she knew how to get into email. So now she has her own login for her "email" and disney websites and we have our own.

I guess I would have the conversation w/the mother and see how she reacts and make my decision based on that, but would probably lean more towards the kids playing at my house. Keep us posted on that conversation!

That is what I would do. Wow!

Oh that's just lovely.. ugh!! I wouldn't let my kids over there either.. I completely agree with you.

Hope you get an apology, you deserve one!!

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This is what is what I would do too. I would be so mad! I wish it were possible for you to erase that from your child's mind.

Ditto!!
I would also keep a close eye on the kids when they come to your house. You never know what they've seen and learned. They may think it's all normal to them. It doesn't hurt to be cautious with your loved ones!

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Certainly the adults can watch the Playboy channel after the kids go to bed. If that rocks their boat, so be it. However, most parents would have sense to change the channel just before turning off the TV or change the channel as they pop in a kids' DVD. I'm guessing the 'bump' on the remote changed the TV from DVD mode to satellite / cable mode.

So that is my first concern ... that the parents didn't have the sense to switch OFF of the X-rated channel during the day.

My second concern is that the kids saw an awful lot of the X-rated show. If anyone as ever viewed a blue flick, you know it takes quite a while for most of the characters to go from having clothes on to intimate contact. When my child, especially a preschooler, has friends over, I tend to lend a bit more supervision than that.

Lastly, the dad switched the channel then yelled at the kids - and nothing else! Sometimes things happen that you wish didn't, however, when those things happen, most adults take some responsibility for it. IF an incident happened like that in my house, I would have walked the neighbor child back home and told the parents about it. Of course, I would apologize. However, I certainly wouldn't ignore and just send the child home.

With that in mind, one day we were having a preschool aged play group at our house. My DD was showing some of the kids her bedroom which is just off the living room. The kids were all in earshot and mothers were milling around checking on them every now and then. Next thing we know, out comes DD with a little boy - one of her best friends - and they are both changed into DD's dress-up dresses. The mother thought it was hilarious. Her son was dressed in a ballerine costume. Now he was a rather tall boy and the tutu barely fit him. That's when I realized the only thing he had on was the costume. I asked my DD what she had on - also nothing except her costume. They had done a 'you show me yours and I'll show you mine' routine in the bedroom! Oh my goodness! Again, the mother was completely cool about it but I was mortified that it happened at my house and apologized accordingly.

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Kids will be kids. My son told me several months ago that they did the same thing (showed each other their body parts) at the other kids' house. I wasn't too happy about it, but I didn't think it was a terribly big deal. Kids do that stuff, and they are fast, too.

I'm concerned now about several things. First, if the parents choose to watch DVDs or the adult movie channel, wouldn't you put the DVD away or block the channel when you're done? It also occurred to me that maybe the mother doesn't know what the father is doing when she's gone, but she also told me recently that they like to go to an adult store to shop. Whatever.

I was up most of the night because the mother didn't get home at a reasonable enough hour to call last night and now I'm just so mad! This episode shows a lack of common sense that is disturbing to me. The father never bothered to call me, even though I know it would be difficult and embarrassing, but now it will be worse for him since I know he didn't say anything because he was waiting to see if my son busted him out.

I'm also upset because I know this is one of many things that will happen in my kids' lives that I will not be able to control or protect them from.

I went in to kiss my son goodnight last night and he said," Bob and Jane and I are going to dream about that crazy movie tonight." Ugh. He also said he'd been think about it all day. Great. Next he'll go to Catholic school and tell the teacher about the crazy movie he saw over spring break. I'm hoping he'll forget if we don't bring it up but you know how kids are. They blurt things out when you least expect it and with this we would have some explaining to do.

We are going to my brother's house for Easter today so I won't be home to call the mother I'm going to have to do it before we leave and I just hope it doesn't ruin my day. I'll keep you all posted.

To update, I called the mother and we discussed what happened. She was completely aware as the dad called her at work right after it happened. I was somewhat nice about the whole thing, but I have gotten conflicting stories about how it happened. The mother says their adult channel is always blocked and she has no idea how it got unblocked. The father called me to apologize for not calling me when it happened and he told me that the tv in the family room has never been blocked because the kids (who are 4 and 6) have never changed the channel on the tv. Which I find hard to believe.

Whatever. The mother said she agreed with me that they need to be more careful. She didn't apologize to me till the end of the conversation, which tells me that she doesn't think it's as big a deal as I think it is. She also said it's a good time to discuss appropriate versus unappropriate touching. I told her that we've talked about that numerous times. She told me she has never broached the subject with her kids. She is a doctor and her kids go to daycare. She, more than anyone, should be careful to make her kids aware that things like that can happen.

In all I have come to the conclusion that they are both irresponsible parents and I really don't like the idea of my son playing with their kids. I will in the future try to dissuade my son from playing with them, even if I have to take him to McDonald's to do it!