Tiptoe Around my DD! - Page 2

Shannon/Bryce · 04-27-2007, 02:57 PM

I wanted to add that they dealt with a not getting dressed issue on Supernanny once and she just told the mom to make her go in her pjs..... that way she was not holding the whole family hostage by her behavior. They would leave on time weather she was dressed or not... The little girl did not like that and the behavior stopped quickly.

GoPytn07 · 04-27-2007, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by calmingweight

There's a GREAT book that sounds perfect for your situation, it's called Setting Limits for your Strong Willed Child (Robert J. MacKenzie). I really like it because it gives you several examples of situations and the ideal way to deal with each situation. Throwing a fit in the car is one example in the book.

I will definitely check into this book! Thanks for the idea!

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like your reward chart idea but as a teacher, can I make a suggestion? A month might be too long to wait for a reward. She may lose interest after a few days and not care about the stickers because it is very hard for a child of that age to delay gratification for that long. She may think that it is never coming... It is usually suggested to start with a shorter period at first so she gets a reward rather quickly and knows how good all the positive praise feels. Then, slowly make the requirement for earning a reward a little higher ... i think you might see more success this way in the long run...

You are right! I was actually looking at the chart this morning and thinking she may get bored with it! Is one week a good amount of time to start with?

Shannon/Bryce · 04-27-2007, 07:03 PM

A week sounds like a very reasonable goal to start with. It is much more attainable for her and will build her confidence about being a "responsible member of the family" . Good luck!!

JenJoe725 · 04-27-2007, 07:42 PM

One thing that helps with fits is give her a specific place she has to have them. For example in a corner or under the kitchen table. When I taught kindergarten, I had one student that would have frequent fits and screaming spells. Soon after I gave him a specific place to have them (under the table I used as a desk) he soon gave up most of them because he realized he was not getting attention for the behavior from me and he knew a lot of the kids would give him strange looks in his isolation...it worked though.

Also try talking her through the routine...we will do this, than this and than this. If she gets through a routine that is rough for her try a reward for good behavior (praise or prize) and a consequence for the naughty behavior. Also try your best to be consistent

Jen

B&bMommy · 04-28-2007, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Shannon/Bryce

I wanted to add that they dealt with a not getting dressed issue on Supernanny once and she just told the mom to make her go in her pjs..... that way she was not holding the whole family hostage by her behavior. They would leave on time weather she was dressed or not... The little girl did not like that and the behavior stopped quickly.

I saw this episode. However, my DD would love to go to school in her PJ's! That just wouldnt work for us.