what my dd said about going potty - Page 2

allgirls · 05-10-2007, 01:17 AM

yeah my dd has heard the school thing, the big girl bed, the playdates, etc, etc, etc. She can go and does but only if she WANTS to. I am backing off until a couple weeks and then I will start asking again.

allgirls

Kimberley · 05-10-2007, 06:34 PM

my three year old goes pee just fine onthe potty, but he poops in his pants. it is realyl disgusting! he hates to sit in it and wants to be changed right away, and everytmie i tell him, you have to poop on the potty not in your pants. he repeats what i say and says ok mommy, then poops in his pants againg alter that day or the next day. its nasty.

macknkeebler · 05-11-2007, 11:25 AM

i am with the others that said to put her in underwear and let her go from there try it on a nice day when you can spend most of your time outside b/c there will be accidents. Don't give her the choice. It only took two days of accidents b4 my dd was completely potty trained when I made her wear underwear and she was 3 1/2 and I had horrible times trying b4 that.

proudnvywf · **ideas- LONG sorry...**

I have 3 daughters... 5,4 and 2. OK I am not perfect but the one thing they taught me is they are nothing alike. That includes how they learn and what motivates me.

With my first she just told me around 16mths. I am not wearing diapers anymore.I am not a baby. Yes she is still just as much a smart alike as she was then..

My second is a very laid back child I was scared we would hit 2.5 or 3. We tried stickers, candy. bribing for toys. Then way day it just hit us. Refuse. I refused to put diapers on her I refused to buy anymore pull-ups (at the time they didn't have those cooling ones) She freaked out. She is very private... she ran around screaming at us to put her diapers on.. we thought we couldn't stick to our guns. Finally she crossed her fist and goes FINE I will wear panties. Only a few accidents.. she hated the feeling of wet pee clothes...

Now my 3rd? Went to a friends house and she had bought ( ok she is turning 3 and has had pull-ups for over a year.. thats to expensive for me) but she had the cooling ones. Tessa BEGGED her to let her wear them. This really helped to let her know when she needed to go? I didn't want to push cause she is young.
But she would keep wearing them and ever so often have an accident. Her older sisters really helped me out on this one. They kept calling her a baby. Now I dont' let them when I am in sight. Cause it really upsets her. My middle daughter one day grabbed the panties and a diaper... she goes. See its a baby panties. Don't you want to be a big girl like us? Wear pretty panties with kitties and flowers? Yeah we are doing really good.

Only problem i have is she is really short and going upstairs to the potty can be a pain. So we put one of those little potties downstairs and put a little curtain thing around it Whoever designed these military houses was missing a few marbles. Put a few books in there....

OK have to throw this in here.. she is running around in big panties dancing going Big Girly I a big girly.. its really funny. The panty patrol has struck again! eheh

Here are some other ideas from friends...

Now you don't have a boy but a few posted they are having issues with potty training boys. Having never had one... hehe here is from my BF single mom to a little boy with some learning disabilties
- She would put diapers on a size smaller then they are suppose to be so it was uncomfortable for him to wear. he would ask for pull-ups she told him they cost to much for mommy to buy... When he would go to the potty to pee she would put cheerios or fruit loops ( he likes colors) and ask him if he could "hit the targets" and win a prize. he would get to pick between stickers, instant tattoo (that would have not worked for my girls) or a piece of candy. And she would remind him that when he stayed dry and used the potty for a whole week she would take him somewhere special. He didn't have the issue with pooping.. he loved the potty for that.

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From one of those shows that have like 14 kids and some of them triplets.

They only had like 2 bathrooms but what she did for the 3 girls that were potty training. She had a potty(x3) everywhere. In their room, in the playroom, downstairs, outside. That way they didn't have the excuse that they couldn't make it to the bathroom. (Im using this with darling Tessa not 100% yet) anyways. The girls decided to be competive and see who could catch on the fastest. She said she spent alot of time helping them. I really don't know how she did it. But it caught on real quick. She left the potties out because it really is hard for younger children to run up huge stairs or wait for older siblings to get out of the bathroom..

This is getting really long but I really like to help when I can. And get help when I can.

Play with them when they are on the potty, play patty cake, read books. DO NOT pressure.. don't be in a hurry. They get stressed. But just make it fun to be a big girl/boy. When they have an accident (and they will) don't address it. Don't make a fuss. Don't look at them... Don't offer "oh its ok... you'll get it one of these days"... they will love the time they get and attention (good) for going to the big potty.

Hope some of this helps

its all very stressful potty training...

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OHmom · 05-11-2007, 06:50 PM

Lots of great ideas! DS just turned three and I was getting tired of hearing all my friends talk about their younger babies being totally PT. Then yesterday DS told me he had to use the potty, I brought him over to his plastic potty and he said "no, mommy and daddy's potty!" We had a great day, 7 successful trips to the potty. Today...not so great but we are getting somewhere! Hang in there, you'll find what works best for you!

hope2 · 06-05-2007, 10:13 PM

I also used the timer method. my sil and mil said I had my kids on a poop schedule but hey they were trained faster and long before my nieces... It worked for me.. We also had the rule you had to stay on the linoleum if you didn't have training panties on.. Kept the mess off the carpet..

adamsmommy · 06-06-2007, 05:12 PM

Boy did I need to read this post! I have been struggling with DS for 8 months with potty training. He learned pee very quickly and never has accidents, but he refuses to poop on the toilet at all. He will sit, but then hide and do in underwear. We were using Pullups because the mess was so bad due to being on Miralax. But I m at the end of my rope. He knows exactly what he is doing but chooses not to. I have started to have him clean up, but I don't think he really cares. Not sure what else to do. I keep trying to find something that will motivate him, but at this point I feel like he is just taunting me! Thanks for letting me vent! Dianna

meme · 06-09-2007, 07:49 AM

I put my DD in Pull-ups to let her feel like a big girl when she was about 2 1/2, and I think they delayed her potty training. She loved wearing the princess Pull-ups and saw little reason to go into underwear.

With my DS, I never let him wear Pull-ups until he was potty trained and needed to take them up and down himself when he needed to go to the bathroom by himself. He potty trained very quickly because he didn't want to wear a diaper.

With #3, I'll keep her in a diaper until she's ready to potty train -- I think Pull-ups are just a marketing scam - our mothers never used them!!

meme · 06-09-2007, 07:54 AM

...just to clarify, I gave him Pull-ups at NIGHT when he needed to pull them up and down himself...

TommysMommy · 06-09-2007, 04:02 PM

Ugh! We had to START OVER potty training with Brandon after Tommy was born. He was just learning at the time, but when I was admitted to the hosp. a friend kept Brandon while DH worked and she and her hubby spanked him harshly after he had accidents!

He got so afraid of the bathroom, he just flat out refused to try. So we backed off and just let him be, and let him adjust to having a new brother. He just turned 4 and we are trying to be very casual about it. He is now going on his own when his older brother goes. He won't be starting school or anything soon, so we are just letting nature take it course. He is learning at his own pace....and we don't go to that person's house anymore...