Disliking Your Child

EmberNevill · **Disliking Your Child**

I am not intending to ruffle any feathers. Nor am I saying that I do not love my child. Because I love that girl like no other. But lately... I am having a REALLY rough time liking her. Ive ALWAYS (even before I had kids) not really liked being around kids between the ages of like 4 and 7. Im not sure why... maybe its all the attention they want.. not sure. My 1st born will be 5 next month.

Her attitude... the things she does... I just want to freaking pull my hair out!!!!!!!!!! Her attitude is just.... GRRRRRRRRRRR I think we are SO much alike.. thats why we bump heads SO much. EVERYTHING I do.. say to her... ask her... she gives me attitude. She's started saying "Whatever!" "You're the rudest mom EVER!" things like this.. and she's only FIVE!!!!!! OMG... what will it be like when she is 15!?!?

Im seriously at my wits end. Ive tried grounding her, spanking, time outs... consistency is the key.. I know.. but whats the BEST method???

This morning she asked me if she could have a cookie. I said "Not right now. After lunch you can." So fast forward a few hours. Im making lunch and packind dh's lunch for work.. go to get him a cookie... and they are ALL GONE. ALL of them. I call her in sit her down.. tell her.. "Im going to ask you a question. I want the truth. Where are the cookies?" She says she ate them. I ask when. She says today I said after you asked me and I told you after lunch? She says yes. I tell her.. no more TV today, no more video games, and no more computer. AND you are taking a nap.

So she is sitting on the couch while her brother and sister take naps.. if she falls asleep great.. if she gets up... OMG.. I might duct tape her to the freaking wall.

SHE IS DRIVING ME INSANE! ALL we do is fight and argue.

Im tired.

maggiemay1 · 09-25-2007, 01:26 PM

Girl, I hear ya!! I have an almost 6 year old who is the same way!

Her attitude is driving me nuts. Some days I feel my only saving grace is that she goes to school and I can be free of the attitude!!! I thought that I was the only one going through it!

LuvMySoldier · 09-25-2007, 01:53 PM

My DD, who started Kinder this year is the same way. She picks alot of it up at school - Especially the "Whatever!" Mine is also into the stealing of sweets!!

So, you're not alone there!! I'm actually working on having to move my desk nearer the kitchen - just so I can keep an eye on things!! Crazy!!

Happymom · 09-25-2007, 01:59 PM

You are not always required to like your children. There have been many times I have not been too fond of mine. Just so you always love her.

jaxdaisy · 09-25-2007, 02:03 PM

OMG...I can totally relate. DD is 4yrs old and we are just butting heads. I see a lot me in her and I'm not exactly sure how to handle her. She definitely is testing me alot these days. I don't get so much that bad mouthing, but the LOOK. She gives me this look that's basically saying something like," I'm not doing it" and "you can't make me." Its taking everything I've got to stay in control with her.

meghannsnanny · 09-25-2007, 02:31 PM

Oh girl just wait until shes 15!

Mine is awful just does what she wants no matter what! I wanna scream, I say this is what happens when you don't spank early--LOL, thats what my Dad told me. Now dsd is just making me crazy cause she acts like a beat child when shes home with us. FIL says its cause we get on to her and she a timid child--Hello--My kids were told what to do and they lived. She does stupid stuff, lie, steal and you ask her about it and she whispers to you, everything I ask her whisper, when she reads her book each night to us whisper, you tell her speak up and she starts crying and act like you have slapped her down! What to do? I think sometimes its easier to have the one backtalking to having her acting like you beat her and shes scared to speak. MIL says shes not that way at their house --yells, runs acts normal, I swear we don't beat her!

stephpook · 09-25-2007, 02:40 PM

I'm having some of the same struggles with my 4 year old son. I think you hit the nail on the head (at least for me) when you said that you butt heads with your daughter so much because she's so much like you. My son and I are a lot alike in a lot of ways and it really brings out the worst in us sometimes.

Missystuy · 09-25-2007, 03:02 PM

Oh Ember, all I can do is offer my hugest hugs! (((((HUGS)))) Me and my oldest have been butting heads since she learned to talk and have her own opinion! she is now 7 and its JUST starting to taper off... not by much though. I can honestly say that one of the reasons I keep her so busy with after school/weekend activities is so that she will stay busy and out of trouble! She is by far the most stubborn/hard headed kid I have EVER seen! We fight about EVERYTHING. What she eats, what she wears, her shoes, everything! And she will stand firm, never give up. Yes consistancy is the key, but sometimes its ALOT easier to just give in to her because she just exhausts me. She constantly teases her brother and sister, Cameron never asks where Meghan is, he only wants to play with Samantha. Meghan is bossy, and dictative. Its so frustrating.

Remember when you were a kid and your mom said "I hope you get a kid just like you!" Well thats Meghan. And my mom stands dumbfounded sometimes because she is WAY worse that I ever was!

Hang in there girl! I just know it has GOT to ease up at some point. I just look forward and hope that Meghan will grow to appreciate all that I really do for her, and that when she IS 15, she and I might actually be best friends.

EmberNevill · 09-25-2007, 03:06 PM

Thanks ladies. Its good to know that Im not alone. And it doesnt help that my dh gives her everything her heart desires! UGH! I told her NO TV and go into the office to work.. I walk in there and the TV is on.. she said daddy turned it on... I could beat that man!!!!

TommysMommy · 09-25-2007, 03:12 PM

Ugh! Pass the duct tape! In the time it took me to read your post, my 4 year old DS told me that "school stinks", threw a kitchen chair, ran to the baby sleeping in his swing and screamed in his face, then went to my room and slammed the door.

5 minutes later, he's sitting back next to me on the couch drawing a picture quietly! I never know if he's going to be the good child or the bad child from one second to the next!!!!