Emotional about Wednesday

Cheesecake Lady · **Emotional about Wednesday**

Marcus starts preschool on the 6th. He is excited and has told me to leave him there and pick him up when his teacher tells him school is done for the day. To prepare he now wipes his own butt

. Until now he wanted me to do it every time. For the last two days he has done it on his own so that he will know how to do it at school

. I bought him a lunch box today shaped like a fire truck. He was telling me what to put in it and where to place everything.

I'm a bit crushed that he is not even hesitating about leaving his mama. Granted I know this is what he needs and it is good for all of us. It's just that my baby (he's my oldest, but will always be my baby) doesn't need me as much anymore

.

I asked him if he wants to go to the preschool with me tomorrow to meet his teacher and get a feel for what Wednesday will be all about. He said he only wanted to go if he could stay there (and without me). So, I guess I will wait to take him until Wednesday - no transition. I hope he really does do well! I will take my camera and some tissue. I keep telling myself I will not let him see me cry!!!

*sigh* My baby is growing up *sigh*

desertmom · **Preschool**

My son was the same way. He had no problem going, which was interesting, since we'd never left him with a babysitter. He was always with me. It just shows you what a good job you've done! Sounds like he's excited. You're right, it's good for him. There are times I want them to hurry and grow up more so I can get some time to do things, then other times I just want them to stop growing and aging. My little diva is cutting 4 teeth right now, two molars and two incisors on the bottom (she already has 8), and I just want her to stop. Stay a baby!!! As you know by now, it's hard seeing them grow, but each age and stage brings new things to just wonder at. They are so smart and learn so quickly. Cute, too! My son is six and he still astounds me with his insight, and yes, his cuteness. Oh, to have that flawless skin! By the way: here's a few hugs to send you: oooooooo - I made them lowercase so they'd be small like you're used to from him. Good luck to you. Kleenex time!

Cheesecake Lady · 09-05-2006, 03:10 AM

Thanks desertmom! You are always so good with your words and thoughts. I feel the exact same way. I'm happy that I will get some alone time with the baby (who also has 8 teeth and has been teething these next four for almost two months now). They do amaze me everyday!!! I'm just not completely ready for this next stage of curiosity and sassiness (is that a word). He is wise beyond his years, yet he makes me laugh at how innocent he truely is. He is testing his boundaries every second!!!

I know he will do GREAT at preschool. I just pray that he doesn't feel too comfortable too soon - then I am in trouble. He acts way different infront of people he is comfortable with. I fear the phone calls or possibility of him getting kicked out! If that happens then I will be stuck - no other preshools around here has openings this late in the game.

desertmom · **preschool**

Thank you for the nice compliment. As you probably know, my son has Aspergers, so I was very afraid of behavior issues during preschool placement, which is why I made many phone calls and talked to friends, which led to finding out about school district testing and led to the diagnosis. I didn't know at the time he was "special needs". I just anticipated behavioral issues, and yes, getting thrown out, as a child of my husband's coworker has been a number of times (yet, he's a sweet, sweet kid!). Here's my take: if they get thrown out, the school is not right for him. I am in no way implying your child has any of the conditions leading to special needs. What I'm trying to say is that my first step was to sit down with the teachers and the school, discuss what I saw may be issues, and find out how they would handle them. For instance, my little guy loved to touch others - hugs, etc., and would not sit still in a circle. A Montessori school told me that in no way would that be tolerated. I knew it wasn't right for him. Yet, the one he ended up in said, "No problem. We see it all the time, and here's how we handle it:" That was a good start. My child will never be a "Stepford Child" (please, no offense to those children who do everything they are told...I just will never be a mom to one), and I'll always have to take those precautions, but sitting down w/the teachers/director and laying your cards on the table may help. I just did it for first grade, and was pleased that they knew about the condition my son has. In turn, they are very responsive when I have to email them with a concern or question. Sorry if I'm too verbose here (see? I learn new words in my research!!), but just in case you need ammo...

Stormy · 09-05-2006, 07:26 PM

Marcus' mommy, (Cheesecake Lady) to me that means that he feels so secure, that you have given him such a wonderful 'base' that he is confident and that means you are doing your job well!!!

Don't worry, he will miss his mommy!!! He might not realize it until you pick him up and he tells you so!! He will be just fine and so will you. I know how you are feeling!

Cheesecake Lady · 09-05-2006, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Stormy

Marcus' mommy, (Cheesecake Lady) to me that means that he feels so secure, that you have given him such a wonderful 'base' that he is confident and that means you are doing your job well!!!

Don't worry, he will miss his mommy!!! He might not realize it until you pick him up and he tells you so!! He will be just fine and so will you. I know how you are feeling!

Thanks Stormy! He did decide at the last minute this morning he wanted to go to the school and see it again. He was so melancholy when we left (only there for 15 minutes). He said he was sad because he did not get to play on the playground. I personally think it hit him that I would not be staying with him tomorrow.

Deep Breath for Mommy and tissues will be in the car. I don't want to upset him in his classroom - I will be strong, I will be strong!!

WI mom of 2 · 09-05-2006, 10:33 PM

I hope that Marcus' day goes well tomorrow!

Quentin's first day was today (it's a class for 3-year-olds that meets 2 hours/day, 2 days/week). There was such a change from when we first started talking about him going last fall to today. Back then, he was like "I'll go if Mommy goes with me", but today he was very excited to go. When we got there, he got his stuff & then started playing cars with another little boy. When DH & I called him over to say goodbye, we got a quick hug & kiss, and then he was back to playing cars. I'm glad that he did well with us leaving, but have to say I was a little sad that he wasn't even a little upset that we were going

. When I went to pick him up, he came out with the teacher & he was a little upset. She said that he had some trouble with the transitions from one activity to another. That didn't surprise me at all, since once he starts something, he doesn't like to be told to quit. So, we're working on that now, and I've been telling him that when the teachers say he needs to stop, he has to stop, and that means that they will be starting another fun activity. All-in-all, he said he had a good time, but was upset a little too. But, he did make sure to tell me that he didn't pick his nose or chew on his shirt while he was there :D (we're constantly telling him not to do those, and I reminded him before we left & I guess it stuck!).

mhender · 09-05-2006, 11:45 PM

You read those little plaques and pillows that talk about a mother's heart being on the outside, but you just don't realize it until one of these days. It's so hard! I just think that five years ago I was minding my own business, going to work, out to lunch, etc. Fast forward five years and I'm sobbing in a church parking lot because my little babies just waved and ran inside with their teacher. I know it would be worse if they cried, but there I sit - every year, doing the same thing. I know - they are secure and smart, and I feel so blessed and happy for that. But my babies - oh how I wish time would slow down a little so I can better appreciate every moment better.

So good luck to you and the rest of the mommies out there doing the preschool drop-off this week. It's okay to be sad! I'm right there with you.

desertmom · **A good book**

For all you mommies mourning your little ones as they go off to school (and even some who are doing the happy dance), I recently read a new book to my son, and we loved it. It's The Kissing Hand. I think there are two of them. The latest one is where mommy (it's a family of raccoons with cute illustrations) gives baby sibling the kissing hand and older brother is jealous. You kiss the child's palm so they have your kiss there all day. It won't wash off or wear off. Your child can feel it any time they need to. I tell my son he can put it to his face if he needs me to kiss his cheek during the day.

Cheesecake Lady · 09-06-2006, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by desertmom

For all you mommies mourning your little ones as they go off to school (and even some who are doing the happy dance), I recently read a new book to my son, and we loved it. It's The Kissing Hand. I think there are two of them. The latest one is where mommy (it's a family of raccoons with cute illustrations) gives baby sibling the kissing hand and older brother is jealous. You kiss the child's palm so they have your kiss there all day. It won't wash off or wear off. Your child can feel it any time they need to. I tell my son he can put it to his face if he needs me to kiss his cheek during the day.

What a great idea! Thank you for sharing!! We are going to the library after I pick him up today, so we will look for the book.