Have you ever had to deal with a braggy parents when it comes to baby/toddler developmental milestones? You know the type -- the ones who always talk about how their kids walked at 9 months, were potty trained right at 2, started talking early, etc. Then you start looking at your own child thinking "Am I doing something wrong here?"

Have you ever had to deal with parents like this or have you been lucky and never encountered them?

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Ran into one the other day when I re-upped my cell phone plan. Her children all walked at 9 months, talked even earlier. These kids are now in their early teens and she was still bragging about these earlier developmental milestones! Of course she didn't mention what they were doing now.

It might have bugged me with my first but I'm more laid back with my second -- they all, eventually, get there!

Maybe those things were the only major accomplishments her kids ever made!

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I thought how small and unimportant all my troubles seem to be,
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I was a little baffled when she was telling me this about her kids and then mentioned how old they actually were now. I was picturing little kids. But she did say that one of them was cooking dinner that night.

Doesn't Bother Me at all.

I Know that all kids dont' Acomplish everything at the same age.

There are so Many Skills to Master.

I know that my kids Are ahead of Some kids and Behind others in different Areas.

What is worse is someone knowing that Tommy is developmentally delayed and still wanting to share with me when their child (same age as Tommy) hit all of her milestones and bragged. After a while I just avoided her. I came to realize it has nothing to do with our kids and everything to with her self esteem. It makes her feel better about herself to know her child did something better than another.

Once I let go of my hard feelings over what Tommy couldn't do and focused on how far he's come, it quit bothering me. I let her have her moment to feel good about herself and remind myself her child will never accomplish half of what Tommy has.

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I don't mind too much I guess. In my ECFE class I do ask about the other kids milestones to make sure I'm not way off on my parenting skills. For instance I have no clue when they're supposed to be able to use a spoon to eat cereal w/milk (without dumping it all over the table instead) so I ask. I guess I don't like it if they volunteer the info with a smug self-satisified look on their face but otherwise it's fine. I figure we can all brag a little about something. It's okay to be proud of our kids.

Now, I am always a bit afraid to tell people about my kids because they all hit those milestones way early. It was nothing I did, they were just all early movers, talkers, etc. It all evens out in the end. (Though my kids are still awfully smart )

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Well, here's an eye opener. My little guy hit most of his baby milestones early. He especially spoke early - big words, perfect elocution.

Only as a preschooler did we find he had some challenges.

He's only mildly delayed, but I can brag all day about the stuff he did, along with his high IQ....but he still is a child with special needs no matter which way I slice it.

And diva didn't walk until 16 months because she was an undiagnosed anemic. Now she is meeting milestones early and doing exceptionally well in everything.

Both kids are very smart.

So...there are good and challenges in every child. Meeting milestones early really means nothing, IMO. Just listen, nod and say "Good for them".

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I usually just ignore people like this and don't let it get to me....in one ear and out the other. Each child is different and your child will not be Einstein over mine just because they mastered the toilet by the age of 2 is what I always think.