I've always said we'd only have 2 kids. But lately when I look at baby pictures, I feel a physical ache. Anyone else go through that?

So I mentioned it to my husband what at first said no but now says he wouldn't be opposed to it.

But for practicallity, 2 seems ideal. We have a 4 bedroom house, each of our daughters has their own room and we have an office. My youngest will be in kindergarten this year. My daughters also had a birth defect in their urinary tract that cause problems until they outgrew it (one at 6 and one at 4), so statistically it's very likely that any other kids we would have would also have it. I'm in no rush to deal with that again.

Plus, I'm about to be 33. My eggs are getting old. That makes me paranoid!

I know there have been several threads on this subject and I've posted on several of them. What I want to know is how you decide? I've read that you'll never regret doing it and might regret not doing it.

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Yep.

Yes, your eggs are aging, but know that I was basically healthy, drank little, didn't smoke (OK, recreationally, may once or twice a year - cigarettes), No drugs except for OTC and prescriptions when needed, and worked out pretty religiously. I had my first at 38 and my second at 43. Both are great! It was just harder on my body than it would have been as a younger person - it is taking me longer to bounce back and I'm more tired! You still have time! Once in a while I say what if, but I am so blessed and glad I have these guys! How do you know? It's just there. Just make sure you are pretty much in agreement. I truly have not regretted adding #2 for one minute. If I weren't going on 45, and had a bigger home, I would look at #3, but the factors are not right for us.

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I understand about the wanting of a 3rd child, I think its perfectly normal. I certaintly would no worry about thinking 33 is to old in todays standard I think its young. I had my second at 34.

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Its something that both of you have to agree on. If you feel like you want another one then go ahead. I don't see a problem. The more you have kids the more you have grandkids and spoil them to death later on that's what I always tell DH. If you guys are okay with having another one its you guys descision. I know the feeling they grow up so fast. YOu want them to be a baby forever. For us we want our kids back to back (two is enough for us he's getting fix after this one) that way one will be in school and the next one will be soon to follow and I'll be free. I can get a job again and have my FREEDOM If you feel strongly about this then go ahead talk to your DH I'm sure he doesn't mind adding more to your family. Don't worry about the birth defect in their urinary tract yes its possible but you never really know for sure until you have another one.

Well, your girls could share a room and the other room could be the nursery. Would work out perfectly if you had a boy. But you both have to really want one. With your youngest going to school you are going to finally have alone time, are you ready to give that up and start all over with the baby process? One to two was easy for me. Three has been really hard, you are outnumbered and no matter how hard you try you can't get everything for everyone at one time like when you only had two (two hands). I'm not gonna lie, it's been really hard for me to deal with how to give everyone attention and balance in personal time. BUT I had one girl and one boy and we would have had both if we stopped at 2, not that 3 was planned but you get it. You on the other hand might want to go for a boy! You will know in your heart what you want, just have faith!

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You are not alone. Two is enough for us, but it's sad when you accept the fact you'll never hold a baby of your own again. My luck I would end up pregnant with multiples and our house is too small for that. Every other weekend my parents and my inlaws take care of my kids while we both work. I wouldn't expect them to watch 6,3 and newborn. I know that would be too much for them.

The jump from two to three kids was HUGE for us. But we are still new at it (5 weeks) and our kids are just little and close together. (almost 4,21mo., 5 weeks)

But still at any rate, you are officially out numbered. I would definitely be totally sure before having another. LIke someone else said, both your kids are in school, do you REALLY want to go back to the baby stage, which is NOT always fun.


(This a very tired mother of three kids under 4 talking )

My dh has a son from a previous marriage. Him and I have two together, and thought we were done. Well, surprise!! Despite precautions we got pregnant again, my third, his fourth. We DID NOT want another baby and were not planning on another baby! But i will tell you that now that he is on his way we couldn't be more thrilled. We had been discussing getting my tubes tied when we got pregnant with this baby, and now I am sooo happy that we didn't!
I agree that you will never regret having another one, but might regret not having another one!

Okay, here I am again responding to this. I struggle with the same question. Right now, the time is not right for me to have another. I will be 34 this year. I am quickly learning that my daughter is a handful and extra activities are very expensive. I really would like to be able to do and keep my kids active. I am afraid if I have another that the money will be tight. I know that you get creative ect...but we just found out my hubby's company is being bought out and it is making us a little nervous. So, for me the answer is no, but I am not doing anything permenant. Listen to your heart and follow it. The answer will be there.

I'm going to put an idea out there, and hope I don't offend anyone by suggesting it, so here goes.

I'm 37, pregnant with my first, and having a pretty easy go of it (so far) despite everything. My sister is 4 years younger, and she had her first child four years ago (Katie turned 4 on May 5th), and had serious problems from beginning to end with the pregnancy. She has a tilted uterus, so she was miserable, plus eclampsia and toxcemia. She ended up on strict bed rest from 27 weeks on, and had to have steriod shots and a c-section. Meanwhile, I have no cysts or anything to cause problems. My sister has tried to convince her DH that adoption might be an option, even before getting pregnant, but he won't consider it. So, I've told her that if she & BIL want to have another child, my DH & I felt comfortable with me carrying for them.

Hey, all my doctors over the last five years or so have been very impressed with the improvement in my body's ability to handle surgery, infections, and illness, and they all know it's due to the dietary changes I've made. I wasn't smoking or drinking or doing anything bad like that before, but I've replaced things like sodas with water, I'm eating more fresh fruit & veggies and leaner meats, and I've switched to a few more organic foods. And I avoid OTC and prescription drugs, if I can help it.

Anyway, that's just my 2 cents' worth......
Jan