As you all know (because I can drone on and on about it! ), my dh and I are trying to conceive. We do plan on going to the doctor, probably in September. We had planned on doing it this summer, but time just got away from us.

For those of you who had difficulty conceiving, I am curious to hear about the choices you considered. Did you consider fertility drugs, Invetro, surrogancy, adoption, other options? How did you make the decision that was best for your family? How did you know what choice was "right"?

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For my husband and I, we knew we wanted to have a baby and were willing to try just about anything to have one. After having testing done to see I was having trouble ovulating, we did Clomid for about a year and after some different dosage changes, we finally ended up getting pregnant. We never really discussed surrogancy, adoption, etc. because I did eventually get pregnant. I'm sure if we would not have gotten pregnant after a year on Clomid, we would have explored those options without a doubt. We did though discuss while doing fertility drugs that we would not have done fertility shots to get pregnant, just because of the risk of having multiples. We wanted a baby, but the thought of possibly having four or more babies at a time really scared us. I for one knew that we couldn't handle that type of a situation emotionally, no matter how much help we received. I don't mean for that to sound bad, but my husband and I knew what we would be able to handle~twins, triplets, o.k., more than that, it would be difficult. Good luck!

We tried on our own for over a year with no go I went to my Dr. his conclusion was that it was dh and he referred us to a urologist. Yet another few months went by.

I can't remember the medical term but my dhs little guys were gettig to much heat so he went under the knife for us! The dr. told us it could take 6 months to correct itself. We tried for another year and a half with no go. We decided maybe to take a different route and thought about trying to adopt for another few months. However I read in the paper about an excellent fertility team in our area and we talked and decided to give them a call. We made the appointment he saw both of us and did tests on both of us this took I think around 3 months (everything is such a process) his conclusion was to put me on clomid and we had to do artificial insemination (yes we conceived both boys holding hands ) Poor man had to put the boys in a cup then they were washed and spinned and inseminated into me. After Years of trying exactly 14 days later I took a home pregnancy test and it came up positive. We had to do the same with Joshua but again it took the first time and that time we didn't have to go through all the bull. The years we wasted with a urologist really angers me. We have them now and that's all that really matters but the money WHEW the whole process is costly and insurance at that time did not cover hardly a thing. Anyway honestly dh had to go through more than me and I love him so much for that

You guys need to make that appointment to get started. I feel dh went through hell and back to give us babies but he did it for us.

I admit we do not use birth control and we have a running joke that I will end up preggo at 40 but you know what I think I would be okay with that because then that really would be a miracle child.

I wish you both luck, but darn it girl call that dr please!

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Well dh and I had dd#1 as a surprise, while we were dating..Soon to be married.. Waited a few years to get settled and started to try for #2 and we tried and tried for 5 years.. Then we finally went to the Dr.s. Found out I had endrometrisise[sp?] had surgery and tried some more. It was so Hard having to go through this each and every month..I don't think anyone knows what you go through emotionally, unless they have been through it..
We thought of adoption, but I couldn't do it. Know I had 1 healthy daughter already. I know this sounds selfish, But I felt I could use the money on her college ed. before I adopted someone elses child. So we started more treatments. I didn't do clomid! They used a breast cancer drug [ not sure of the name] but it got the same results as clomid.. Just a smaller chance of multiples. It worked the first time they entered his little men.. We were blessed with dd #2 9 months later..

I haven't been on birth control since dd #2 was born. I feel that if it is ment to be it will..
I will probally be 40 and preggo too!!

Call the dr asap!!! Good Luck!!!

Blowing baby dust your way!!!!

Stacie your story is very similar to mine, only we're 2 years into the 5 years you tried. Our DS was conceived au naturale while we were still dating. Ended up getting married and fast forward to now - DS is 4 and 1/2 and we've been trying for over 2 years now for #2. I just decided I'd had enough waiting and wondering (not as patient as you are!) so I went to the Dr for the first time today!! I'm hoping our #2 will be on his or her way soon!!

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Hubby went to the urologist and I went to the ob/gyn and his fishys wouldn't swim. Sperm count of 2.

I had my ob/gyn do the initial artificial inseminations. Failed. This saved tons of money.
We went to the fertility clinic in April.
I was pregnant by July 13.

Our daughter is 16 month old.

See the doctor! Before you start deciding that you're going to go the surrogacy route or the IVF route or whatever, see your ob/gyn. The problem -- for you and/or for your dh -- might be something easily corrected. Unless you end up with the horrible diagnosis of Unexplained Infertility, your ob/gyn can tell you what your treatment options are. You might be referred to a reproductive endocrinologist (fertility specialist) who will have more options for you.
While you're waiting for a diagnosis, you can do some research and decide what you're comfortable with. Would you mind taking pills? What about injections? Are you willing to undergo surgery? How do you feel about a multiple pregnancy? Are you willing to adopt? Domestically or internationally? Does your insurance cover any fertility treatments?
Only the two of you can decide what route you're willing to take. Good luck. Now make that appointment.

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I agree! I think this is something really occupying a lot of your time and thoughts and you just need to make that appointment!! You'll feel so much better once you do! Just go to your OB/GYN and he or she will help you get started! Its really not as painful as it seems and I'm sure that will help set your mind at ease knowing you're doing something about it. Remember, we'll all be here to support you!!

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Just make your appointment and go. My doctor referred me to an infertility specialist when I mentioned that DH and I had been trying to conceive (for a year) after our first miscarriage. DH was fine; I had problems ovulating. I was on Clomid for a few mos. and did conceive. I miscarried that baby later. After some testing was done, it was discovered that I had some sort of bacteria which can cause miscarriages. I was put on antibiotics before resuming the clomid. The clomid didn't work anymore, so we tried the injections (Metrodin). By the third cycle, our twins were conceived. They were healthy, full-term girls and now are 11. All in all, we were very fortunate; it was only about 15 mos. from my first appt. with the specialist to the time of the twins conception.
The concern for multiples is warranted, but when I was on the Metrodin, the infertility clinic closely monitored my hormone levels and egg maturation rate.
We prayed for guidance during this time; of course, now our prayers for guidance are for raising our family which includes three girls now!

Ok, so remember you asked, right?

I always knew that I would have trouble conceiving and right after getting married and having to switch OBGYNs, got dx with PCOS. (I had tried asking previous dr and she said no - DUH??). New dr. said "when you are ready to conceive let me know". Well, at the time I "didn't want kids" partly b/c I didn't want to be an old mom and wanted to be married for awhile to really establish our marriage and partly b/c (I think now) I didn't want to want something that I couldn't have.

As our friends started having kids, it became a desire. So I went off birth control and over 6 mo later still didn't have a cycle, went to the doctor and she told me to chart temps and take clomid. Clomid did a huge number on my emotions. Each month the dosage of clomid would increase for a total of 6 mo. During that time dh had a sperm count done (as a make sure type a thing - I felt so bad about this b/c I knew that it wasn't him), I had an HSG (I think that is what you call it) where they stick a dye up you to determine if your tubes are blocked, I had one partially blocked.

After 6 mo of clomid, my dr. (who I loved) referred me to a specialist. He said yes no problem you can get pregnant. I started taking clomid and getting a shot in the hip to release the mature egg. Oh, also had this "wonderful" ultrasound so they could see my mature eggs. First month - didn't take. Second month we were going on vacation at the time that I was to get the shot so I didn't do it. Got pregnant on vacation!!! All the meds started to make my body work.

I nursed ds for about 8and 1/2 mo - and have determined that I got pregnant about a month after that! BY ACCIDENT!!! I thought after all the stuff we went thru it would take more meds etc.

I refused to do Invitro b/c of ethical and moral reasons. We had started looking at foster to adopt agencies and actually had one come to the house. (this is cheaper than adopting). We knew that money would be a huge issue for us with fertility treatments etc. as well. We knew that if God wanted us to have a child(ren) He would provide, if not we were going to accept that. It is so obvious to us that our children are from God b/c of what we went thru and the timing of it all.

I hope that this answers your question(s) if not pm me or whatever.