Do you tell people that you are trying to conceive? I tend to be really open with that on this board, but it certainly isn't something that I say to people when I first meet them. Some people know we are trying, but I don't think it'll be something I announce in the Christmas letter!

I know this can be touchy for some people. Some people believe in keeping it to themselves, while others tell a lot of people to get support and encouragement. What about you?

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No, I never told anyone, I did not like the pressure.

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~Happiness is a large family~

i agree, that time can be stressful enough. Plus, I didn't want to be asked all the time, and was worried if I had problems it would lead to endless discussions I did not want to have. JMHO!

When I was trying to conceive I was about like you. I certainly didn't wear a banner or introduce myself with that information, and I probably didn't say anything when we were just "trying". Once I started in vitro fertilization I had to let people know because I had to leave work to get shots everyday (luckily the MD was in a building attached to the hosp I worked in) and I told some of the people I worked closely with and warned them the meds might make me a flaming b**ch instead of my usual pleasant self But in many ways I think it's better to not tell people because it just adds more pressure.

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Telling people you're ttc, especially if you're in treatment, brings a lot of unsolicited advice. Do you really want one more person to tell you that if you just relax you'll get pregnant?

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~Jeweled

I never told anyone we were "trying". I think I feel weird because then I imagine they don't want to think about us doing "it". LOL

Originally, we were not going to tell anyone, although I have slipped to a few close girlfriends. It is a stressful time & I needed some support (other than DH telling me not to get stressed!) I still have not told my mom yet, which I feel a little strange about, but i could not handle receiving baby making tips for her, and I would probably get a phone call every day asking if she is going to be a grandma yet. She would definitely add to the stress!

After two losses and five years of trying i was an open book. I led a support group and i was very open about our infertility issues.

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Jodie....Wife to Andrew (1995)
Mommy to Riley (2000) and Wyatt (2003)

yep, we tell people. actually people ASK US! "so, you trying for another one? when you having another? you pregnant yet? hurry up and have another one!" and on and on. LOL I don't go announcing it to strangers, but people that I'm friends with, yep, if they ask I tell them yes. A lot of my friends know about our infertility issues at the moment, as they pray for us in that regard, so there really isn't pressure on us. When we do get pregnant, we'll have a whole LOT of people that are as psyched as we are!

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~~Amanda~~
Mommy to one Little Man (3 1/2 yrs old), FINALLY expecting #2!!! (due around Memorial Day 2009) *adoption has been put on hold*

We were married for 10 years before we actually started "trying." We got questions around year 5-6. I always answered "trying? Heck, yeah - usually 3-4 times a day!" Even though we weren't really trying because I was on b/c at the time. It shut people up though.

When we decided to try for real, I only told my sister and one friend. But we told EVERYBODY after we heard/saw the heartbeat at 9 weeks. Now I am trying (or rather, not doing anything to prevent) for another. I've mentioned to several people that we want another (in a general sort of way), but I don't start conversations with "hey, hubby and I have sex all the time because we want another baby!" I have asked friends with more than one kid about their opinions for baby spacing - so I guess I give myself away with those kinds of questions.