Another baby? I'm almost 39, DH will be 41 in December. When I was pregnant with Aidan, and since, I have said, he was going to be our only child. But now I'm beginning to wonder. Whenever anyone asks us when we're having another child, I always say, "We're not", and DH stands there with this forlorn look on his face.

I think we're both of the mind that if the Good Lord wants us to have another, we will. Anyone else out there who said they only wanted one, then changed their mind?

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Alicia

Mommy to Aidan 10-21-05 and Rori 7-3-07

no one can answer that ? but you-
Though I always tell others that if you are "on the fence" then they should have another. If you are thinking that now- what will you be thinking in a few years when it harder to have another.
I thought we were done at 3 and I got pregnant on BC- I know now that I am finish and we will not be having any more. SO IMO I feel like if you are not for sure than you should really say I am done and move on or say lets have another and move on.
Best of luck in your decision

my sister never wanted children and then her son now 8 came along and she would not change it for the world then she remarried a man who has 3 children and now my niece is a little over a year and she is 37 and her dh is 41 she changed her mind. he wants another but she is done so they are done now... it is a very personal decision you need to really weigh your options but as you do get older it does get harder...i thought i was done at 2 but here i am having the 3rd and this is the final....good luck in your decisions and don't let anyone but you to influence your decision.

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When I see how much my kids love playing together, I am very thankful I have two.

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I was 38 when we had ds after being married 18 yrs. DH didn't want kids at first. Anyway, he was pretty sure he only wanted one, and we doted on ds. After about three years, I started kind of wanting another. By year 4 dh was like, well, maybe another one would be fun. DS wanted a baby sister or brother. We actually didn't plan for dd, but we kind of let it happen. I was 43 when I had her (dh is same age). It's a lot of work, and it's harder to recover, and yes, I'm exhausted, but I wouldn't trade her for the world. DS is totally in love with her, even though he doesn't get the one on one attention from me as much anymore. He's now asking for a baby brother. I'd rather he have a hamster or guinea pig. It's a decision only you can make for what's right. Everyone was pressuring us to have another, which is ludicrious, because family lives so far away we never see them, and complete strangers would try to make us selfish. Only children grow up just as find and happy as those with siblings. Go with your instinct.

I was 37 when I had my ds, I thought that due to my age having just one would be good enough. He has brought sooo much love, laughter, and joy into our lives that we decided one IS NOT ENOUGH, so here we are again, the two will be 17 months apart, which in our minds anyway we are hoping they will become best buddies since they are so close in age. It will be alot of work for a while, but oh so worth it..

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Wife to a wonderful husband, ful time Mom to Cole 2 and Jace 9months

Only you can answer that question...it is a tough one...I too hold the belief that each child the good lord decided to bless me with and I have 3 and my 4th any day now ( I hope) I am done now but am blessed. Good luck!

im 31 and i only have one - shes 9 and im happy with 1 i dont want anymore its a hard decision . good luck .

I have 2 sons from a previous relationship, and 2 step-daughters. We've been on the fence for 1 more since I will be 30 in a year and a half, and it's a personal cutoff age for me (for some personal goals I'm trying to reach). Part of me is so pleased with the age the kids are at now, their independence, that it's really like starting all over again for me. But I know that deep down I'd like to have another baby, so we will be trying in a few months. We said that if it doesn't happen within 1 year of trying I'll go back on the pill, or some other contraceptive, and that's it. It it happens, we'll be excited, if not, for us - it was meant to be that way.

Talk to your husband about it. Express your fears of having another, if you have any. Good luck.

Only you can truly answer that. I think that if you are on the fence, there's a part of you that would welcome another child. I thought I was finished with 2. Ended up having 2 more on BC & other physical issues. I wouldn't trade having 4 kids for anything in the world. Each of them bring a special light to my heart & they all love each other.

Search your heart & talk to dh and you will know what's right for you.

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