I just caught part of it, but Lisa Ling reported on the trend for mothers here in the U.S. to hire surrogates abroad to carry their kids. They showed a family who was using a surrogate from India. What do you think? Would you do that if you couldn't carry your own child?

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I would for one of my sisters, or for a close friend! My Dr tells me I'm made to have babies! I've gotten pregnant the first time everytime we've tried, generally have easy pregnancies & fast vaginal deliveries... I'd probably do it! I'm also done having kids so it would be somewhat feasable.

I LOVE KIDS, and I love having them! If I knew one of my sisters or a close friend couldn't have a baby of their own, I think I'd do it in a heartbeat. (of course I'd have to discuss it with DH first and make sure he's ok with it...)

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I would in a heart beat for my sister or a close friend of a long time.( almost did but she is not adopting from Eitopia)
As for being hired to do it I don't know if I would be able to do that .... for a stranger. I would have to know them a while first.

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i would do it for stranger after i got to know them a bit and to make sure that the child would come to no harm at all in their hands. it would be difficult but i could do it to help a truly deserving couple. if my sister needed me to do it, i would do it in a heartbeat. same as with my best friend if she needed me to do it i would. as long as dh ok'd it as well.

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I saw it too Kim.

I personally did go through many years of infertility and thought about many different options.
Surrogate was one at that time. I don't remember it costing $70,000 to $80,000 though like was stated on the show. I mean yes the surrogate can earn up to $25,000 but i don't remember the doctor bills being so much.

As far as going to India....I don't think it's a bad idea but seeing as how my husband hates to travel and the fact that you have to stay there for such a long period of time....(also i was very shocked by the conditions there).....I'm not sure i would do it.

It was amazing to me that $6000 could make such a huge difference in those women's lives. It makes me want to raise enough for even one family to have a decent home.

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No, I could not do that. Wouldn't hire one either. I can't say I am understanding though, I have not had problems having children. But I know that if I wanted another child, and I couldn't have one, I would adopt one. I know that it can be hard to find babies over here, but if I had the money for a surrogate, than I would have the money to go overseas to adopt. Plenty people from our church have done it, and they are not rich.

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I'm with Penelope here. I just can't see myself being or hiring a surrogate. There is so much involved in that situation - the risks physically and emotionally. I think there are other options. And, I've always personally felt that God had a plan for me whether it included children or not. Just because a woman can't have children does not make her a failure in life. God may use her in other ways or make her a mother is His time. JMO

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Since I Have never been in that situation. I can't say for sure what I would do.

I can say, it would be something I would consider for the possibility of having my own boilogical child. But it would be hard to have a surrigate from another country with a different way of life carrying my child. Will she take care of herself the way I feel she should. There is more to a healthy pregnancy than just carrying the baby. But then again, maybe if I was unable to have children of my own, it isn't God's plan for me. That's really tough.

I would love to say I would e able to surrigate for someone else. But I know me, and I would be so attached that when it was over I would be so full of sadness and grief that I wouldn't be a healthy person afterward.

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I am going through this right now. My twin sister is carrying my daughter, Caitlyn right now for my DH and I. She is an amazing sister and it has been an amazing experience. I am so excited and we only have 3 months to go!

I would never have let a stranger carry my baby, hard enough with someone I know doing it!

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We would adopt a child if we were in that situation - but adoption is in our future plans anyways.
I could never carry a baby for someone else, I know I wouldn't be able to give it up.

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