I had a miscarriage my last pregnancy at 5 weeks. Basically I knew I was pregnant for 3 days and then lost it. It was very difficult. We are hoping for baby #2 and I am so scared that when I get pregnant it will happen again. I know 12 weeks is considered the "safe" time, but does anyone know when the majority occur?

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I'm sorry for your loss. I know how difficult it is though. I had my first miscarriage at 14 weeks and a second at 6 weeks. When I got pregnant the next time I was totally freaked out the whole time but luckily everything went picture perfect (after 2 years of TTC).

My dr told me that most miscarriages will occur before the 12 week period. My advice to you would be to try to relax and things will happen for you. I know it's not easy but I really believe that keeping a positive frame of mind and being able to talk to someone (mom, DH, friend) helps a lot.

Your dr probably won't mind seeing you more often too if it helps to give you more peace of mind. Best of luck...

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Melissa, Mia & Sophie's Mommy

They're more likely to happen within the first 12 weeks, but there is still some chance even up to 20 weeks. My friend lost her baby at 20 weeks. Most miscarriages there is no cause linked to it, they spontaneously happen. So, just keep trying and be positive. Good luck!

I know this isn't any help, but I am so sorry for your loss and for your stress. I too have experienced a miscarriage between my 1st and 2nd child. I was so sad and no one really knew what to say to me, I think miscarriages can be so loney. So, know you are not alone.

And of course you are scared, as Mommy's we want our babies to be healthy and to have everything go perfectlt for us, I wish I could tell you differently, but you won't feel totally better until you get to hold baby in your arms--enen though chances are things will go much better for you next time. Good luck and do your best to relax as much as you can, and I agree talk with your doctor about extra visits or possible an extra ultrasound, if you can get insurance to pay for it, mine did when the doctor ordered it as a precaution.

By the way, I now have 4 beautiful little girls, so there is lots of hope that things will go better next time!

I am so sorry about your loss and I had miscarriage too in 2001 during my 8 weeks pregnancy. I know the feeling when loss a baby and know you will try again when you are 100% ready.

My doctor told me, after one of my three miscarriages, that one in 4 is lost, and that most are before the 12 week mark. My last miscarriage was when my son was 3 1/2 (I'd also had a miscarriage before him). Then I got pregnant the following year. I was so terrified, and even bled clots around week 12. I was convinced I'd m/c'd again. It was so hard to bond with this baby inside because I was afraid of losing it. At the Dr. office, they found a heartbeat. They never found out the reason for the bleeding. My little diva is now two. So it is so very possible to have healthy pregnancies afterward. It's hard not to be anxious about it, but unfortunately, so much is out of our hands. Just take care of yourself and when you feel tired, rest so you can stay healthy. And you have a guardian angel to watch over your next one.

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I too had a miscarriage between #1 and #2 at 7 1/2 weeks. My OBGyn did order a couple extra procedures with my next pregnancy purely to reassure me (which I really appreciated). I had the pregnancy confirmed with a blood test because I got pregnant again about 8 weeks after my miscarriage (the pregnancy test said I might get a false positive within 8 weeks) and they had me get my levels rechecked two days later to make sure they were still rising. They also checked my progesterone level to make sure it was adequate since low progesterone factors into some miscarriages. Then they ordered an ultrasound at 8 weeks to confirm viability (make sure there was a heartbeat).

It is my understanding that the miscarriage rate is between 20 and 25% of KNOWN pregnancies (a lot of people speculate that it's even higher if you factor in miscarriages that might happen before pregnancy is confirmed) - possibly higher. If I remember correctly, your risk goes down to about 5% once there is a confirmed heartbeat and to 3% after 12 weeks. Anything up to 20 weeks is still considered a miscarriage but is pretty rare.

You've already had a successful pregnancy so your odds of having another one are good. I'm not sure anything will totally take away the fear you will feel when you get pregnant again, but please know that there are many women out there who have been where you are standing right now and have gone on to have successful pregnancies.

Good luck and don't be afraid to share your fears here - like I said, a lot of us have been there and we are more than willing to offer our support.

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Stephanie
Mom to: Caleb (8/03), Ian (9/05), & Lucas (11/08)

Steph remined me: My Dr. put me on progesterone, also. It made my morning sickness worse, but she did it to help maintain the pregnancy just in case. She did warn me, though, that if the miscarriage would happen because of a dire deformity that doesn't allow life, the progesterone would make me retain the fetus longer. I was willing to take that risk, though, as I am an older mom. So every miscarriage and every pregnancy is different, but the successes are so much more sweeter!

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I lost one and then had my youngest very healthy DD about a year and a half later. Try not to worry to much. Your baby will be ok

I also lost two, one at five weeks(or so) and one at 11 1/2 weeks. But then i had a beatiful baby girl. The doctor said that there is no reason i should not have a healthy baby. With my baby they gave me progestion said it will not hurt anything. May help. It is hard but very common and there is always hope. Keep hope!!!