i have had both of my kids sleep w/me & dh at least the first couple of weeks. i heard that the baby sleeping w/you helps to prevent sids. the babies feel you next to them and stay more alert than left on their own. whether it is true or not, i don't know. it worked for me. my mom had a baby die of sids when sleeping alone in crib.
as far as the police, they need to question the parents first to eliminate that possibility, because unfortunately there are some sickos that do things to their babies. but the comment was a bit much. they can talk to his/her seargent to make a complaint about the way it was handled to put in his file.
after all the attention is on other things, it is sad to hear another loss to sids.

Baby sleeping with you actually reduces the risk of SIDS. What a thoughtless, cruel thing that police officer said.

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I am so sorry...there is nothing that can help when there is such a loss...how horrible for your friend.

I don't know much about SIDS...except what has already been said, and my personal belief (although there is no "science" to back me up) is that God takes us when it is our moment...and we may never understand why. I know that doesn't help now, but someday it might. I believe that as I sleep with my 5 month old tonight. I don't understand SIDS and it seems no one does...sleep on your tummy, on your back, alone, co-sleep, blankets, no blankets, nuk or no nuk...the rules seem to be changing all the time. I hope your friend with time can realize that she did nothing wrong...infact she seems to have been doing everything right.

She's right again. There have been studies on it...I just can't quote sources off the top of my head, but it has been well documented. As long as you are not obese, don't smoke, drink, or do drugs, and take the necessary precautions. I.E., baby was always near the top of the bed in her Snuggle Nest, so she wouldn't accidently be covered with my blankets...she had her own when very young.

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What a totally insensitive thing for that officer to say! I'm so sorry for this woman's loss!

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Hugs for your friend... I hate to hear co-sleeping families that have results in this.

We co-sleep and have since DS was 1 day old....

Babies who sleep in a safe warm enviroment close to mamas heart, and breath sounds are less likely to die from SIDS. Children who die from sids its mainly caused from a breathing problem, IE they forget or stop breathing, there breathing pattern is not like ours yet. There has been research of babies sleeping with mamas, and mamas sensing that there babies are having problems breathing.... So I am all for sleeping with my babies.

Now here is the kicker.. If mother or father has been drinking alcohol or has taken sleep aids, no baby sleep in playpen or else where...
If bed is fluffy and has to much bedding baby should sleep in playpen or crib.

I also suggest if the mother/father dont feel comfy with just having baby sleeping directly next to them use a cozy nest co-sleeper it helps keep distance between mama and baby...

Co-sleeping is a joy, my DS is 12m old and he still sleeps with us, and we are expecting #2 in August of 2008 and we plan on that baby sleeping with us to...

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I am sorry for your friend's loss. I never did the co-sleeping thing my son has always been a nothing in the crib no bumper or blanket on his back (until i decided he wanted to sleep in his side or tummy) baby. SIDS scares the crap out of me. Does anyone know what the age is where it doesnt affect them anymore? That police officer was soo insensitve I would like file a complaint and stuff.

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The age where the chances of SIDS all but disappear is 6 months. I just asked the pediatrician on Wednesday about that, because DH was a little worried, since DS has started sleeping in all kinds of contorted positions.

I haven't ever worried about SIDS too much. DS slept in bed with us (on my chest) when he was a newborn, and often would sleep with me after DH went to work up until about 5 months. He's always had stuffed animals in his crib, and blankets when it was chilly. Mothers have been sleeping with their babies beside them for thousands of years. If it was a known cause of death, people would have figured that out a long time ago and it would be common knowledge now, IMO. It seems like the scientific community thinks that the Dark Ages ended only about 20 years ago.

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That exactly......

Society and Medical Professionals tend to forget that many/most other countries still believe in the family bed, co sleeping, room sharing.. The US tends to feel that children should have "privacy" or there own room etc etc. I just dont the rationalization leaving a Newborn or even a few months old child in a room all alone, after they have been in the mothers womb for 9 months listening to mamas heart beat, close to her. Then you put a baby in a crib alone, in a place its never been with smells, and feelings its never had..??? What gives??? My opinion is not the same as many parents in the US. I would rather my child be content and sleeping next to me where I can hear him/her breathe at night, smell him, and he smell me. Its comfort for both of us. Though some say, you wont get a nights sleep etc etc, who gets a full nights sleep when you have a new born anyway, in your bed our his own bed???? My DS is 1 year old and I still dont get a full nights rest without getting up 1 or 2 times during the night. If sleeps is something that concerns people then they should not have kids... Just my opinion...

Woah I ranted there... LOL.. Opps sorry...

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