Afew years ago, dh and I did invetro to concieve our third child. We were successful the first atempt and now have an adorable two year old boy. My concern is that we still have several frozen embyos. Every year I recive a $300 bill to continue to store them. We are not planning on having any more children but as a Christian, I can't bring myself to just have them destroyed. We thought about donating them to another couple, but again, as a Christian we wanted to be sure they went to a good married couple ( man & woman). We either continue to pay the storage fee, destroy them,donate, or give to research. Again, I would want to know what kind of research. These are not only embryos but life. It's such a hard decission. Have any of you found yourselves in the same situation?

Honestly, when we were having trouble conceiving I knew that I couldn't do invitro b/c of this situation. Luckily, it never even got to that point. My heart breaks for you as I can only imagine the conflicting emotions that you must have. Have you contacted any good adoption agencies? I guess that would be my first choice - I know there have got to be some great Christian ones out there. Good luck!

I would donate them for research, but I'm not Christian. It seems quite a conundrum for you.
Even if you donate them, there is no guarantee about the couple. My best friends struggled w/ infertility issues for over a decade, including 3 rounds of in-vitro before they finally adopted a beautiful baby girl. Then they immediately got pregnant twice and ended up w/ 3 girls under 4. The husband couldn't handle the stress, couldn't handle not being first in the wife's priorities, couldn't handle the house not being perfect at all times or the children making noise, considered it proof that his wife was an unfit mother, and then he had an affair & left. Now she's raising them alone. My DH and I are still completely shocked by this 2 years later as we NEVER would have thought their marriage would not last. So, even a good married couple might not be married very long after adopting your embryos.

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Have you considered the Snowflake Embryo Adoption Program? They're a part of Nightlight Christian Adoptions. A couple in our church adopted embryos this way. I'm not sure what their screening process is or how much say biological parents have in who is allowed to adopt their embryos, but it can't hurt to check it out...

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Stephanie
Mom to: Caleb (8/03), Ian (9/05), & Baby Boy #3 (EDD 11-9-2008)

me and my husband have had this conversation because of the debates in the news. WE thought that if we would not want any more children it would be good to give the embryos upo for adoption. There are so many families that woudl love a beatiful addition. These embryos are definatly something that are the parents responsiblity adn I am glad you care about this decision. I am a christian and even though i am not sure that these have souls to say but i think that they have the potential so it is important good luck

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