i keep thinking about having another baby. what is wrong with me? i have a one year old dd,whom i love, but she's very active, and literally keeps me running around the house. but every time we go near the baby section of the store, i want to buy all this cute baby stuff (bouncer, crib, sling), and do it all again.

i don't really want to have another baby. i started with a goal of 3, and after having my first, i think she'd do well as an only child..... and i want to finish school, and get a nice full time job with a good salary. i want to be able to afford to take my daughter on family vacations, and have her participate in extracurricular activities... basically i want to give her the life my mom could never afford. if i have another baby, we won't be able to afford anything.

i know all this, but i still find myself secretly (apart from mommysavers readers) wishing i had another baby. is this just a phase????

I don't think you are crazy, I think you are very normal! I thought I only wanted 1 for the first 4 years of my son's life but my dh really wanted 1 more. I agreed to try, got pg the first month we tried, and now I can't even imagine our lives without ds#2. We may not have as much "fun money" as we used to, but the things he has added to all of our lives (most especially ds#1) way outweigh the extra money.

I don't think you're crazy. I really wanted to have another one. Still do, but dh feels the same as you. If we have another one then it will be harder to pay for college, vacations, braces, etc.

I think all moms experience this. At least all the moms I know. They call it "baby fever".

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Mommy to Hope (10.10.06)
Monkey mommy to Allyson (10.13.02)

I'm there with you. we only ever intended to have one and while i still feel that way it's just recently now that ds is walking and out of the little baby clothes section...sniff.sniff.

Truly I feel like the whole baby stage went by way to quickly. I am sure that it seemed much much longer from the outside before I had my own. I have to keep remembering that where he is now will also seem so short so to revell in every moment I have to spend with him!

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Your not crazy. It may be a phaze or it might be something you really want. Your at that point where the "baby" starts to be a little easier, eating less frequently, sleeping through the night, playing etc.
Its normal to start thinking about having another when things start to get back to normal because you think "that wasnt so bad"
Do some soul searching and figure out if this is what you really want. how does your dh feel?

I felt like that for about 6 weeks a little while ago. I thought about babies all the time and was so excited. Now I am kind of "over it", although we are planning to have more kids, maybe TTC in January of next year.

You're not crazy at all!!! I have 4 kids (ages 2-12) and I just told dh today that I want another one! Not possible though....but I still get the itch!

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Stacey - Mom to 4

I had a surprise pregnancy this time around. My first will be 17 months when my 2nd is born. I am actually excited!

I think that all moms go through this stage but not all moms want more children. I'd really think about it before you go get pregnant again but I also don't think that money should play that big of a role in your decision. Yes it is fun to do expensive trips and so on but if you planned well you could still do that just not as often as you'd have been able to before. Maybe alternate with a less expensive vacation like camping or trips to the zoo.

I know that I plan to have at least four and I do not plan to pay for all of their college. We plan to help but I think that I should have to pay for it all. If they want it bad enough they will work for it. AND there are scholarships too.