It took us a year...and to add on to it, we lost it. I was so upset b/c I felt like we both worked too hard to lose our baby. We're trying again now, I had a cycle and hoping it'll happen very quickly this time. We actually just came back from Hawaii, so we're hoping that one came home with us...

I'm wondering if me being on the pill for almost 10 years is why it took so long...

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Alot of my friends have experienced trying for ahile before getting pregnant, so we decided to start trying in February thinking it would take us awhile. I am with everyone who said that stress is a contributor to not getting pregnant. We moved in feb and did the deed while I was ovulating and nothing. I was super stressed. March DH was out of town when I was ovulating and in April he got his wisdom teeth pulled around ovulation so we had just counted that month out, but low and behold I am now almost 8 weeks pregnant. I had a miscarriage a few years ago, so we are hoping everything works out ok with this one!

Keep your chin up and try to have some fun with it.

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IT'S A BOY!!!

Onehappymamabear,

It has been about 3 months now. I know that is not very long at all, I just worry that it isn't going to happen considering my DH's lack of interest in sex. You definitely can't have a baby if you aren't having sex frequently! My period just ended yesterday. I am going to start an ovulation test in a few days to make sure that I am indeed ovulating. The bad news is that I have to be gone for work for two weeks (back on the weekends), and I am afraid that my ovulation is going to occur while I'm gone.

I am 28, dh is 35, it took us almost a year and a half before I got pregnant. After a year of trying we both went to the dr to get checked out, he suggested trying one of those ovulation kits, and it worked like a charm! The next month I was pregnant.

Barginbabe,

Your concerns are valid, I was in your shoes so I understand how you are feeling. It's GREAT that you're so aware of your body and your cycles -- that will help ya get pg. 3 months is definately not that long so I wouldn't be too concerned that something might be wrong. Keep them lines of communication open with your dh. Good luck and prayers coming your way!

HUGZ!!!

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Happily married to John - 7 years May 19th
One Happy mama bear to step daughter Amanda (15) and LeAnne Kimberly born Oct 11th 2007

Well, I thought I would update. We've been trying for 6 months with no luck. I have tracked my temperature, cervical mucous, used countless ovulation kits, nothing. I was doing research about causes of fertility problems, and found that a certain injury that my husband had as a child has sometimes caused male sterility. Not just low sperm counts, but zero sperm counts. With no hope of ever producing any. I am devastated by this. I am at the point now where I want him to get tested, but I am afraid of the results. A part of me wants to know, but a part of me would rather not know and just keep hoping for a miracle. Please keep us both in your thoughts.

If you think DH might have a problem with his sperm, I would go and get him tested. You've only been trying for 6 months and my understanding is that they don't start to think you have a problem until you've been trying for a year.

Sometimes it just takes people a really long time, but maybe if you get him tested you would have some ease of mind. Then the question is what if he comes back normal? WIll you get tested then? Will you consider fertility options? If having a biological child isn't in your cards, will you consider adoption?

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It has been taking us a while, but based on what everyone else has said, I thought we were probably on the high side of normal (I do travel for work, so a couple of months I wasn't home during the fertile time anyway, and there have been problems with the frequency of intercourse). I was more than willing to wait the year to start worrying hard-core. That is until I read about the injury that he had as a child and how it could cause of sterility in adult males. That would be a known risk factor, and I would assume they would test earlier than a year knowing his history. He said that he is willing to be tested. He had never been told that his injury could be a problem later in life.

I wouldn't be against donor sperm. I don't know how that stuff works. Can we do a family member, like his brother, or does it have to be anonymous? I would be worried that something genetic would pop up with an unknown person. Both of our families are healthy.
I had never really considered adoption. There is such a shortage of babies, and I have known people who have gotten their hearts broken when the mother changes her mind, or been denied by foreign governments for trivial things. I have to think about this some more. I don't know what we will do.

With my first I got pregnant the first month off the pill and with this one it was the second month of trying, third month off the pill. With my son we were careful to try on the days I thought I could get pregnant and it worked right away. With this baby we tried like crazy one month and didn't get pregnant. DH said I was stressing too much and driving him crazy so the next cycle we just did it whenever we felt like it and I got pregnant.

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Well, thought I would put an update in here. I had my annual OBGYN exam yesterday. After some talking with her and discussing my disappointing results and the irregularity of my cycle (hmmm...I guess that 45 days between periods isn't even on the high side of normal?) she feels that I am annovulatory. I would use the ovulation kit and run out of sticks starting when they recommended, never getting the LH surge (they only give you seven). Then, I thought I would ovulate a couple days after that based on the mucous. But, from what I was describing and the times she said I wasn't ovulating. She ordered an ultrasound, the results were pretty gnarly, and she diagnosed me with PCOS.

So, I'm feeling a little bit blue about my chances right now. I know it is treatable, I just don't know how long of a road we have ahead of us. Does anyone have any positive results with metformin? That is what I have been prescribed.