Hi everybody!

DH and I have been trying for about a month. I got my period last Thursday. I am actually surprised by how sad this has made me. I was kind of hoping we would be one of those couples who conceives on the first try.

We are 28 and 29 years old, no known health problems. Before this we used barrier methods, so there aren't any hormones that are still in effect. Can those of you who were in a similar situation age and health wise let me know how long it took to conceive your first between ages 27 and 30?

Not that I'm discouraging those of you who got pregnant with the first one within a month at 18, or 45, I'm just trying to compare apples and apples.

I'm 26, DH is 34 now. We tried from May 2006 to May 2007. I was charting from about January 2007 onward, making sure to hit those "fertile" days. My period was clockwork, and I could feel when I ovulated ( mild cramps). It still took a year.

I actually found out I was pregnant two weeks before I was scheduled to have my annual - where I was going to talk to the doc about starting fertility testing (not treatments yet,but starting bloodwork etc).

One month is waaaayyyy to early to start getting upset or even worried. I didn't even get to the point of really focusing on the best days to "do it" until 6 months went by, and I still waited another 6 months before I though it was time to get concerned.

HTH

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I think it's the excitment and anticipation that probably upsets you the most.

It took me 9 months to get pregnant with my oldest and when she was 9 months old I was pregnant with dd2.

Good Luck!

Here is some baby dust for you ****

Please don't be discouraged. Sometimes it takes a few months. Sometimes like my dh and me it takes a while.

I suggest you keep trying for the next six months. If you do not conceive on your own (which I'm sure you will) then go see a doctor. They can help figure out why it's not happening.

Baby dust is being sent your way!!!!!

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Jodie....Wife to Andrew (1995)
Mommy to Riley (2000) and Wyatt (2003)

I must admit I too was hoping that we would be one of those couples who would be pregnant righ away, but it's been over a year now.

I was charting, but it wasn't until I got an ovulation predictor kit that I learned I wasn't actually ovulating, then I was able to go to the doctors and get some Clomid.

I agree that a month is still way early to worry, but it you are not charting I would suggest starting and I would suggest getting an ovulation predictor kit because it will make you feel better that at least your timing is exactly right.

Not to get your hopes down and it is different for everyone but with our first it took us about 10 minutes, I swear, it happened very fast. But for our second it took about 4 months. So it is different for everyone and different in every pregnacy.

I was in your situation when we were trying with our first. I was 26, had been using barrier method since about 19. My period was always like clockwork. It took us 6 mos. I was so impatient I actually picked up the ovulation kit at the store and used that. You would be surprised how little of a window a month you have to actually get pregnant. I know how sad each period is while you are anxiously awaiting. I spent the time daydreaming on how I would announce the news to dh and family once it happened. I also saw my ob/gyn and she started me on pre-natel vitamins. Good Luck!!

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"Before I was a Mom I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body." ~Anonymous

Thanks for the encouragement everyone!

I am not in hardcore worrying mode yet about it ( it's a little early for that...lol). There are a few things that have me upset about it, I think. My 24 year-old sister just announced that she is due in September, and two ladies at work (both younger than me) are due in a few weeks. I try to be happy for them, but I am just jealous and really sad.

When my sister told me she was pregnant I started crying on the phone, and not in a good way. (I hid it, though). This was a month ago, the catalyst for us TTC. My husband came home and found me sobbing uncontrollably, which is not like me at all. Up until now, he has been the one putting it off, not me (we aren't ready financially, we won't have any fertility problems so why rush it, let's wait until we buy a house, etc, etc). When he saw how upset I was, he said that he was ready and we should start. I hope he doesn't feel like I manipulated him into this or something. I have just been holding a lot of this in, I think.

Also, the last 6 months or so I have had lots of dreams about A) my husband dying and never having a child with him B) me being infertile C) him being infertile.

Is this just my biological clock ticking in psychological ways , or am I going crazy?

On another, less crazy note, some of you mentioned charting. Are you are discussing charting, are you talking about cervical mucous charting or basal temperature charting?

They are referring to charting your basal body temperature and cervical fluid. If you haven't already, I would strongly recommend reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. Charting may or may not help you conceive faster, but I do believe it maximizes your chances by helping you pinpoint when you ovulate each month (and if you even are ovulating). Good luck.

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Stephanie
Mom to: Caleb (8/03), Ian (9/05), & Lucas (11/08)

Hang in there! I think those that get pg on the first month of trying are rare. When we started ttcing I had read that it can take a few months for your body to adjust to coming off of birth control. There is also a narrow window each month when you can actual get pg. I totally reccommend a book called Taking Charge of your Fertility by Toni Welcher. GREAT information.

Unfortunately we are ones who had trouble concieving. It took us 5 years to get pg. I have PCOS and we eneded up having to use a drug to help me ovulate. I know full well the disappointment you speak of. It can get very depressing, and frusterating.

I'll be praying you get pg SOON! Take it one day at a time and keep hope alive.

HUGZ

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Jana
Happily married to John - 7 years May 19th
One Happy mama bear to step daughter Amanda (15) and LeAnne Kimberly born Oct 11th 2007