Evert month has turned into a roller coaster ride for me. I wait 2 two to "try again", then another 2 weeks to see if this is "the" month things worked. The fisrt half I do pretty ok, but the last two weeks can really get to me. Everyday seems to drag as I just want to skip ahead to see if we're pg this time. Add to that I find myself anaylizing everything, are my breasts sore? do i feel sick? are the mood swings pg or just pms? the worst is testing and nowing I'm not pg and waiting to start my period. How do others deal with this? How do keep your life normal during all of this?? I could rally use some advice!!!

Don't think about it - I know easier said then done! Every month that we "tried" nothing. The months that we did it once we got a baby each time!

Good Luck!

let gods will take over. The old saying of when you least expect it it will happen is very true.Sometimes you put so much effort into it you forget about life. So with that said just let nature take its course stop trying so hard and worrying about it and when you least expect it it will happen. I have 7 and 1/2 years between my oldest 2 me and hubby tried everything fertility drugs all the testing know to man kind and nothing. Well out of the blue i decided to take a pg test just toi make my period come lol cause mine wold come when it wanted to and i knew if took a test it would be neg and i would get my period the next day. Well low and behold that test was positive! I was so scared and shocked i made hubby stop what he was doing right then and there go buy 2 more tests to verify it and yes like many of woman out there that happen to be the one month that we only did it 1 time. So basically what i am trying to sday is relax about it and it will happen and instead of focusing on trying to get prego focus on making your relationship better in all ways known. And trust me your hubby will go thru the ups and downs just like you do cause he wants it as much as you do. Good luck and keep up the spirits it will happen

I tell myself I am not pregnant over and over again so that I'm not let down. I know that sounds pathetic, but it's the only thing that works for me.

Don't try...period. The more you try the less likely it will happen. Don't stress either, that will not only hurt your chances, but delay your period giving you false hopes. As for analysing everything. If you look for something enough you will see it even if it's not there (ie: sore boobs... poke'em enough to see if they are sore and they will be, but it will be because of the constant poking.) Just give it time... it will happen. God is just making that one spacial baby for you and he's not done yet. Good luck and lots of hugs!

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First of all, BIG HUGS. I have walked down that road; I think it was one of the saddest and most frustrating times in my life.

Several things I did:
I got all the medical help I could. I had all the tests- they were fine. I had one small uterine polyp, but they do not cause problems with fertility. People kept telling me to relax, it would happen. I let it go for awhile, then I just felt I needed to pursue that polyp. Long story short, I had a hysteroscopy done, and the doctor found mulitple polyps and undiagnosed endometriosis, which he removed and cleaned up. He said I would be pregnant within three months, and 8 weeks later I was.

The monthly rollercoaster ride was so hard. I was very sad a lot of tte time. I forced myself to focus on other things- I took up a new hobby; I learned to quilt. Dh and I did some traveling- to Europe and Alaska. But still the sadness was there.

I finally aknowledged that maybe God had other plans for me, and maybe I needed to find a new dream to pursue. I prayed about it a lot, and asked God to lead me one way or another... to pursue things further (the polyp or adoption), or to make my heart happy and content with all the other good things in my life. Dh and I decided that we would do one last thing- have that polpy removed- and I literally picked a new doctor out of the phone book. This doctor led me to the one who did the exploratory and found all the trouble (several others had refused to pursue this for me).

Looking back, I can see that even though I was very sad and each month was very hard, the timing of my first child's birth could not have been better. God picked the perfect time for us. It was very hard waiting, but the story for me has a happy ending. I will be praying for you-- hang in there.

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I agree with Lexi'smom. The months we tried to hard nothing happened. But both times I got pregnant we had only tried 1 time that month on my most fertile day. (usually around the 14th day of your cycle.

Someone had told me about an old wives tale that is you conceive on your most fertile day it will be a boy. Since I got pregnant on the 14th day with my son I tried for the 13th the second time and had a baby girl. Don't know if that is really true but it worked for me.

Just to relax and have fun trying. By only trying once you allow your husband's sperm count to build back up therefore giving you a better chance of conceiving.

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My story is similar to a lot of the ladies on here. I'd been told at one point that I might have endometriosis, so I knew that trying sooner rather than later in my life would be a good thing. Dh and I had been married about a year and a half when we agreed that I would go off the pill, and we'd start trying. I saw a different OB shortly before that time, and she gave me a bunch of info on natural family planning (checking basal body temp, mucousal and cervical changes). It also said to have sex every other day while your mucus is fertile (to allow your dh's sperm count to build up again). It took me a couple of months to get the hang of reading the signs, but one day, I KNEW it was my fertile day (I don't actually ovulate on day 14 of my cycle...more like day 18-19), and I was pregnant....with a girl. Not too long before that, I'd also had a conversation with God where I just let go of the burden, and said I would just let it all happen in "His" time. It was a really hard thing for me, as I tend to like to "run my own show," so to speak, but He really did take away the pressure.

The next time I got pregnant was shortly after I'd stopped nursing my first (this is when your body is at its peak of fertility...trust me). We hadn't even been planning to have another baby so soon, but God had other plans again, and blessed us with TWO! So, I have 3 babies 25 months and 3 days apart!

I wish you loads of luck, and send you big hugs! Keep your chin up!

P.S. I found out later that the first OB I saw was wrong, and I do not have endometriosis.

Worrying too much might actually prevent you from getting pregnant, it is almost like your body thinks you are under too much stress at the moment to handle pregnancy well, I have heard soooo many stories of couples that tried for years to get pregnant and then gave up and decided to adopt- many of them got pregnant during the month when they adopted a child and stopped stressing out over the idea of getting pregnant. My conclusions might be wrong but it is something you might want to consider...

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I completely understand what your going through. My dd is now 16 mths old and we've been trying since her b-day for another baby. Every month I get myself worked up just like you said and then when I start it's such a let down, really makes you want to cry. I guess the whole forget about it and it will happen is true, but so much easier said than done. Before my dd I had a miscarriage and immediatley we started trying to get preg. again. Months went by and nothing happened. The month I gave up, I got preg. Just remember I'm here if you want to talk about it. Good luck w/ everything, hopefully it'll happen soon!