So, we found out last week that I am pregnant. We are still reeling from the news and are still in disbelief. DH has always said he didn’t want anymore, and actually was just saying it three weeks ago and that he wanted to get the big V—I have always not been real verbal about having or not having a another one, the thought was a nice one, but way in the back of my mind. Really am happy with my two kids and that was enough. Now that I am pregnant and definitely sure this is the last one ever… I want him to get snipped and now he is balking at the idea. Go figure…

It’s hard to believe that I will be mom to another child. A lot of thoughts going through my mind in the last week. I thought I was done having kids…I’m too old…what will I do about work…we need a minivan or SUV, which is a gas guzzler…we really don’t have enough room in the house, but I don’t want to move. I was also thinking about my dh saying he didn’t want anymore kids, he even brought up the idea of adopting it out. It had me a bit concerned, since my ex had always said that and it didn’t turn out with him. I don't care how surprised or shocked I am, I couldn't put my child up for adoption. In my situation, I would just feel like a bad mom.

We didn’t talk much about it last week, we were just so shocked. Then over the weekend we started talking about it more and last night. He definitely needs to get a better paying job, one where I can either quit altogether or work part time. So he’s been looking into some options.

Last night he said something that made me feel really a lot better about the situation. We were sitting there talking about jobs, babies, etc. I haven’t been eating much since I found out, not sure if it is my nerves or just being pregnant. He was telling me that I needed to start eating because eventually, I will be happy and excited about the baby. I asked if he would be happy and excited and he said heck yeah, it’s shocking now, but in the end it will be exciting. It made me feel a little more reassured that things will work out ok.

I can only hope and pray that it will.

You will be. At the beginning of May, I felt exactly the same as you when I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant. I cried at first, but after two days I was very excited. I was nervous telling dh who was out of town, but when I did, his first thing was "we'll be ok" and he was excited. It just took us awhile to get used to the idea and I know you will, too. It was scary because we had our lives sort of planned out with the children that we have and this just threw a complete monkey wrench into the equation. But, I know you will be happy about it as time goes on. I can tell that by your post.

It's understandable that you both would have mixed feelings since you weren't planning it and thought that part of your life was over. Bu I'm sure you'll both come around and be very happy in a short time. It's hard to not get excited about watching a little baby grow inside your tummy. Good luck! Keep us updated.

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First, CONGRATULATIONS!!! I have been there too. Twice, actually. You might think I would have learned the first time. My kids are 14, 12, 6 and 7 months. I was completely freaked out when I found out that I was pregnant the last two times. My husband was even more so. And this last time, so were the kids. But they are the most wonderful children. They have made all our lives so much richer. And I really do think that it becomes easier in some ways. It's also good for the kids to have younger ones to help care for. My 12 year old daughter and I were talking about the car situation just last night. She was saying what cars she liked and I told her that I was never really into cars, color was always my main consideration. I said that I would like to have a hyrid for our next car, but I want one that will hold six to eight people, two dogs, and camping equipment. She said that she didn't think that it existed. Maybe we just need a bus...

If you don't mind my asking, how old are you? I'm 40 and we did the early genetic testing and all was well. My best friend from childhood just had her first a month before I did and all went great for her also.

Im sure everything will be fine. Things will fall into place. Its hard to deal with things that are unexpected, especially when its good news. I would feel unprepared and everything as well. The good news is, you have months to figure out the car situation and if your home is big enough. Good luck!

I'm sorry i am chiming in late here. I've been working alot and not able to post much. First of all Congrats on the new marriage!!!! I have missed seeing you around on the board and i'm glad you are back.
As for this pregnancy........it will all work out, hun. Sometimes "surprises" turn out to be the best thing you never knew you wanted until you got it. Hang in there girl!

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I'm 37. I've said since I was divorced that I would be willing to have children up until I was 40, but not really thinking I would have anymore. It's a big adjustment.

Congratulations! My third daughter was a surprise too, and she's been a blessing, most of the time.

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