I feel so alone and sad. My emotions have been all over the map since I have been pregnant. I get really angry and annoyed easily. I'm aware of it and feel horrible when I get snippy with DH or my friends. Apparently I am really happy too and they say that I am mostly happy not snippy. Whatever.

So yesterday I came home and DH was in a REALLY bad mood. Normally (not pregnant) his moods don't effect me. I hope he feels better, but I can still be in a good mood. Well...not yesterday. I let it completely effect my mood. Then we were around friends and all I wanted to do was be by myself. I didn't want to be around them at all. I was ready to burst into tears or beat the crap out of everyone...so I was just quiet. I was asked about a million times "What's wrong?" "are you ok?" I just keep saying I was tired and in a bad mood, so I was going to be quiet. (I am normally a very out going person). Then the joking about "pregnant Marissa" starts which really peeved me off. I was quiet the whole way home and just started crying when we got back. We are suppose to go on a float trip this weekend and I told Dh I don't want to go, he can go with the dog. I just don't want to be around anyone. DH tried to comfort me and hug me, but I didn't even want him to touch me. I let him, but normally I feel so much better in his arms...but not last night. This morning I thought I would feel better, but I don't. I don't want to be around anyone and I've never been the type to isolate...ever! We have the ultrasound today to find out what the baby is and I'm just blah.

I am nuts!?! Please tell me I am not alone in this. I hate feeling like this. I can usually snap out of bad moods. Man, this sucks!! (strangely, I have no problem with my boss. I guess throwing myself into work is helping)

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IT'S A BOY!!!

You're not nuts and you're not alone. Last year, about two months before my son was born, I was having going through the same thing. It will pass!

I went through that almost my whole first trimester this time. Thankfully I'm past it but it was horrible! I know how you feel and can just tell you to hang in there. But you might want to talk to your OB about it at your next appointment and you want to make sure your DH knows the signs of PPD for after the baby is born. Good thoughts going your way!

I felt the same way you do when I was pregnant. It came and went for me. But there were times when I just wanted to lay down and cry and outside things affected me when before they wouldn't.

You are not alone in this and it will pass. If you are concerned about the way you're feeling, talk to your Dr. about it. They will be able to help and explain why you're feeling these different emotions.

Big Hugs to you girl!

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Thanks, I already feel better.

I am one of the first of my friends to have kids, so no one has been through this and all the joking makes me feel like I'm a circus freak or something. I just got off the phone with my mom and she said I am being so hard on myself that I am making it worse...which is probably right. She also suggested that if I don't feel like going somewhere or doing something not to go. Wow, what a novel concept This is just a huge adjustment for me. I am so used to always doing something and being a pretty even tempered, happy person. She said when she was pregnant she just didn't go if she didn't feel up to it and she should know, I'm the oldest of four. I'm going to talk to my Dr about it today at the appointment.

Oh, my mom and DH both have said to tell people the "pregnant Marissa" jokes are upsetting me and to please stop. We are a big on joking with each other, but I just can't take it right now sometimes.

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IT'S A BOY!!!

I felt the same way when I was preg, and on top of it was pretty sick a lot. I did not like the "jokes" at all either. DH likes to joke, and normally I'm fine with it, heck we usually banter back and forth at each other, but I really couldn't take it from him. I really tried to be a good person and nice when I was preg, but I was miserable, and when he'd joke that I was "oh so mean", and he'd "rather be at work than at home", though I *knew* he was joking, it really bothered me. I finally told him, and he stopped immediately - he thought he was lightening the situation for me, but I just took stuff way too personally.

Make sure your DH knows it's nothing he's doing wrong, just nothing makes you happy - and that even if you don't want him close to you, it is nice to have him near, and helpful. I think some guys are programmed to believe that pregnant women are psychotic anyway, and are willing to do anything to stay on the good side - but it's hard when there is no good side.

On a side note, and not saying it's something you must do, but I ended up having to go on antidepressants - Zoloft - for a portion of my pregnancy. It really helped the mental aspect (and the actual aspect it was prescribed for, but that's a different story), and the only thing I did to ensure baby was fine was to taper off and stop (with doc help/instructions) about 4 weeks before I was due. DD was perfectly fine - so that is an option if it just is way too much to handle - talk to the doc. I had to go back on it for PPD at 3 months post-partum, and have chosen to stay on it indefinitely because I like me a lot better when I'm on it!

Take care!

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I think what you are describing is pretty normal. Your body is all hormonal and going through so many changes right now. I wouldn't like the joking either. I agree with your mom and dh...don't go if you don't feel like it. I started doing that with my dh. Not sure if he fully understands that I just get too tired to drive around sometimes or not, but it does make me feel better.

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those good ole hormones can really make you feel not normal. don't worry you will be out of your funk soon. i agree if you don't want to go somewhere don't.

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You're normal! I'm very emotional whenever I'm pregnant (normally very level headed non-moody type person), I've spent almost this whole pregnancy at home alone, I just am not social when pregnant.

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I'm completely with you! I have days when I'm completely fine and days when I'm not. It's rough to be the first one of your friends to be pregnant and have a baby-there are some things that most people (especially young) don't understand until they've been there. But it's just a mood and it'll be gone in no time-mine always leave after I have a good cry