I ask, cause I am not sleeping much at night, dd is 11 months old. she goes to bed fine, I do not think she is hungry upon waking at midnight

she cried for 1 hour 52 minutes, the last time I let her cry, I thought that was enough, I gave in

SO, if you had an 11 month old

how long would you let her cry before picking her up?

need mommy support! LOL

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married 8 years to a crazy Brit, mommy to a banana, she is 4 and a pineapple who is 1 year, mommy to 3 ~angel~ babies

I've always "spoiled" my kids and never believed in the letting them cry it out. I've always gone to them immediately and both kids, now 2 and 4 are no worse for wear. Once they were about 6 months, I tried to stop picking them up during the night. I would lay them down and rub their backs until they fell asleep and eventually they learned to put themselves back to sleep.

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I'm a somewhat "weenie" mom and was never very good at that cry it out stuff. I eventually did with my kids, but they were MUCH older....probably about 3. At 11 months I still picked them up as soon as they whimpered...didn't even wait for a full cry. Like I said....weenie mom

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Once Noah was 6 months old I was told by his doctor to let him cry for 10 mins before going in there. But when he got to be older I let him cry more and eventually he fell back asleep. I would peek in there without him seeing me which was a task but as long as he was ok I would let him cry.

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Mom of one kangaroo!

I started a bedtime routine with Jared when he was about 6 months old. With Mags it was a little bit later not much. So for me it wasn't that much of a problem.

I would read to them etc (by 11 months I am pretty sure that I was done with any feedings past say 8pm) we'd do prayers and I'd put him in his crib while he was awake. He soon learned how to put himself to sleep. I think that the key is starting a routine really early.

Can you sit on the floor of her room and work your way out of there?

It is really up to you. It sounds like you are at your wits end and need sleep. Don't feel guilty for needing sleep.

I would let her go as long as it takes and she will be okay. I didn't like it but I needed to do it.

My girls don't feel neglected or abandoned and don't remember CIO. They do both go to bed and sleep all night.

I super-nannied her to get into her crib at bedtime.... put her down and when she gets up to stand, say bedtime and put her back down with a paci, it took a couple hard nights but she got it

I am just such a "weenie" too at midnight, for one I am tired....but I do not want it to go on either.

for the first couple of nights in her crib, I did sit on the floor and comfort her. maybe I just need to bite the bullet and sit there at midnight LOL

I am not really one for crying it out, but there comes a point when exaustion sets in and you do what you need to do LOL

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married 8 years to a crazy Brit, mommy to a banana, she is 4 and a pineapple who is 1 year, mommy to 3 ~angel~ babies

that's what it has gotten to, I feel guilty. yet I am tired

I guess that is what is in my head, she's screaming cause I am a bad mommy and she is neglected LOL

thanks for helping put that into perspective, because she is no where near neglected or abandoned... and we'll all be much better off when I get a full nights sleep

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married 8 years to a crazy Brit, mommy to a banana, she is 4 and a pineapple who is 1 year, mommy to 3 ~angel~ babies

For us, (both my kids weren't sleeping through the night at 11 months), we had to let them cry it out for hours. It takes about 4 days to a week, and then they don't expect to get up. But for those days it almost kills me. I think with my youngest the first day was cry for 2 1/2 hours, sleep for 1, cry for 1, sleep a little, cry a little and the night was over. However, he never wakes up in the middle of the night anymore. I think it's all the child and what you can handle. Good luck!

You know what you could do is just pull a blanket and pillow and lay in her room on the floor. Show her how YOU go to sleep.

Just an idea?