Hi All,
Just wondering when you brought your new baby home, what do you wish your husband would have done for you that he may have forgotten in the excitement of bringing the baby home?

a spotless clean (everthing wiped down, mopped floors, clean toliets all that jaz). It was something I could not do beacuse I was swollen and huge and it is the last thiing you are going to want to do as soon as you get home.

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Just chilled out. Dh has a tendency to take out his stress on me, and for some stupid reason he just couldn't curb it for a couple of weeks. We had been bickering a bit beforehand, but when dd was 6 days old I had to take her to a dr appt and forgot to do something he'd asked me to, and he really crawled up by behind for it. He finally let up when, absolutely exhausted and in a lot of pain from a nasty delivery, I just started bawling. I guess he realized he was being an ass, and he went to the pharm to pick up some meds for me. It was much better after that. But, telling this man to chill out and not sweat the small stuff was like telling a bird not to fly. Luckily, he's chilled out a LOT since then!

My husband was actually pretty great. He got up to help with the baby in the night, did errands and some cooking, and best of all, he told me "not to worry about things getting done." Very sweet.

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That was my hubbie too!

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I have no complaints.....dh was amazing! he took awesome care of me while in the hospital recovering from a nasty (25 hour) labor and emergency c - section and dealt beautifuly with our ds who was in the nicu for 3 days and all the nurses and doctors that come with that. I am sure he saw/did some things he never thought he would do

When we got home he was a champ and got up at night to help etc.

Me three! Dh was awesome! I wouldn't have wanted him to do anything else!

With Baby #1: He was amazing. I had a terrible delivery and was out of it for ages afterwards. He did everything the first few weeks, just bringing me the baby to feed while I recovered.

With Baby #2: Different story. He started his Masters a week after she was born and we hardly ever saw him .. not to mention she was born overseas and I was alone all the time and didn't speak the language and had baby #1 (not even 2 yet) to look after as well. I felt abandoned and isolated and for the whole first year plunged into the darkest postpartum depression I have ever known. I nearly didn't survive it.

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lol i was also going to say clean. with ds #2 we rescued a baby puppy from being sent to a shelter and it was not yet potty trained. needless to say after being in the hospital for 3 days the house was horrendous. eeeewwww i dont even like to think about it. at least he remembered to feed the dog. but i didnt complain because this was his first and he was so excited/ nervous and next to me every moment that i was in the hospital

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Wow. I'm so sorry you went through that

My dh was not awesome. He took off two weeks for my first. He was inside the house for maybe 10% of the time. After that, his Dad came over and they worked on projects around the house. I had to get up with a c-section and wait on myself and our baby. The second time around, he was home a day or two, I think. He ended up going on a business trip when she was 2 weeks old, for 2 weeks. I was left with a 2 yr old, newborn and our Dalmation died of kidney failure. My experience was not nearly as bad but I sympathize completely with you. It is hard for me to get over the fact that he left most of the infant care to me with both children.

I would've asked for him to fix a few meals, help with chores and change a few diapers.