How supportive is dh??

Missystuy · **How supportive is dh??**

I ask because my dh seems LESS than supportive of my WAH ideas. Everytime I mention my ideas and try to flow with them, he rolls his eyes. It annoys the heck out of me!! Does anyone else have this issue?

Cheesecake Lady · 06-05-2008, 04:56 PM

Missy, you are not alone.

The hardest part for me is that I used to be the breadwinner of the family until I quit to SAH. I have had the opportunity to do a few things and where DH says that is great, what he really is saying is...it better not interfer with the family and the amount of time you are around. He doesn't want any more added responsibility with the house and kids. More importantly he wants me to pay more attention to him, if you kwim. He is worried my priorities will upset the apple cart.

He knows that I will succeed in anything I do - I am motivated that way. I think he worries about finances as well. What if it doesn't work out and I have invested all that time and money.

I suggest if there is something you are truly motivated and excited about doing, write up a business plan so he can see your interest is not a fleeting whim. Include how much time you think you will spend on it during a day/wk. How does it impact him or the kids? How much money do you have to put out in the beginnning? What type of money would you bring in toward the household? Does it change your tax bracket? Would you have to put the kids in daycare? Is it long term or short term to get your foot in the door? Things like that.

When he sees you are serious then maybe he will be too. Open up the dialogue and include him in the decision making process as much as possible without letting him run your show. Hopefully he will come around

HTH,
Dawn

beautifulbabies · 06-05-2008, 05:44 PM

My husband has been pretty supportive but he is honest if something isn't working. When I starting mystery shopping, I think he had some concerns but grew to absolutely love it. He would go on shops with me, fax receipts for me, etc. He now will even do some shops, mostly just oil change shops but he also did a golf shop once! My mystery shopping turned into a permanent WAH position as an Account Manager and he makes sure I have time to work. He would NOT support anything that would require me to be gone a lot in the evenings as he think it takes too much away from our family for money we don't really need. He also would not support anything that required a lot of money upfront unless I had a very good business plan. I think basically he just wants me to something because I enjoy it, not because I feel like I HAVE to. I really like what I do.

stacie · 06-06-2008, 01:00 AM

When I first started selling lia sophia, my dh said if I could make a couple hundered dollars a month great!! Well after my first couple of shows he asked how they were? I told him and he said OH!! Well about 6 months in, he came across my pay stub and was shocked.. Well ever since then he is the one who brings it up while we are out, talks about the $ trips and etc.. He will ask if I need help stuffing envelopes.. He has even come to a few shows that have been far from home..

SCMomOfTwo · 06-06-2008, 01:08 AM

My dh is very supportive, 90% of the time. When I have work to do on weekends, it bothers him sometimes though. I try to get it all done during the week for that reason. Otherwise, I might just put in work hours 7 days a week!